My wife, age 48, releases a little fluid when she comes. She has worried for years that it’s urine, but it doesn’t smell like it, and she doesn’t feel like she’s urinating, What is it? Her gynecologist mentioned “female ejaculation,” but didn’t know much about it. We looked it up on the Internet and found mostly porn with women who squirt buckets. My wife does nothing like that. I’m not worried about her little quirk (I actually like it), but her “problem” makes her feel anxious and insecure, which can’t be good for our sex life. Do you know about this? Is there something wrong with her?

My girlfriend and I are just starting to have sex. We are both virgins. She is 21. and I’m 22. When we go to do the deed, where is the dick supposed to go? I can’t find the hole. We have tried her on top and me on top. Nothing works. She yells at me. Then we stop. How can I get the deed done? ANY TIPS!!!!

I’m over 70 and still have strong sexual desires. My physical responses don’t come close to matching my mental desires. The “used to be” almost instant erections and 20 minutes until ejaculation are a thing of the past. It’s more like: half to three quarters of an erection, that goes off and on for 30 to 45 minutes, and then nearly completely limp. Then, the only way to orgasm is to receive oral sex that may take as long as an hour. Of course, this completely exhausts my partner. OR, satisfy her first (which I always do) and go until I’m completely exhausted and never climax. I haven’t vaginally climaxed in over a year.

I take no drugs, street or prescription, drink maybe once a week but am under some stress a lot of the time. I am not as physically fit as I used to be and about 30 pounds over weight. I’m going back to the gym now and will drink a lot less or maybe not at all. I failed alcoholism a long time ago! I don’t smoke.

Can you help me find the info I need to wake up those once had physical capacities?

My husband and I enjoy keeping our genital areas shaved, but the problem we continue to battle is razor stubble. How do we stay smooth shaven and keep from developing those itchy bumps?

I’m a 54-year-old man. I was never interested in anything kinky beyond reading The Story of O in college. But over the last few years, my erections have gone from fair to poor, and now intercourse is pretty much impossible. Meanwhile, all of a sudden, I want my wife to dress up in corsets and spike heels and I want to spank her. She likes lingerie and is happy to wear corsets, but she’s not into being spanked. She says I’m upset with my erection loss and want to vent my anger by spanking her. No! I know she has nothing to do with my ED. I don’t want to spank her hard, just enough to hear the smack and turn her butt a little pink. But I can’t explain why I’m suddenly interested in spanking her. Do I subconsciously want to punish her for my ED? She says I need a shrink. What do you say? BTW: I’ve tried the drugs and they haven’t done much for me.

I’m a 42-year-old woman, and I’ve always had difficulty having orgasms. I can come, but only with a vibrator, and they are weak orgasms nothing earth shaking. I’d like to experience some truly mind-blowing orgasms. I feel like I’m missing out. Any suggestions? Thanks.

My fiance’ is 48, and I’m 39. In the beginning of our relationship we never used to have a problem with him getting an erection, or keeping one. Someone told me that if he really wants to get an erection he can. Is that true? I’m starting to feel like he is not attracted to me. He told me he has poor blood circulation, and the blood doesn’t flow properly in his penis area. In the winter time his fingertips get so cold he can barely use his hands. Is he telling me the truth, or is my friend right when he said my fiance’ can perform if he wanted to. I think he is not attracted to me any more, and he wants to have sexual relations with some one else. Please help, I am on the verge of tears. I miss our regular sex life.

I have been involved with my partner now for nearly five years. When we first slept together she told me that she was still a virgin at the age of 43. This shocked me, but we share many interests and generally get on fine. I thought I could make the relationship work. She has lived for years on her own, so when I moved in she had a great deal of culture shock.

My problem is that she can never relax. She is a very driven classical musicians who comes from a very high achieving family but as an outsider ever so slightly dysfunctional.

We are taking a break from each other at the moment, I want it to work, but she has a real problem with intimacy. The strangest thing is that when we are standing in line at the store or in a cafe, she is all huggy and kissy, but when it comes to the bedroom, she says she is too tired. When we did make time to go to bed, the sex is always a one-way street, a lot of me stroking, caressing, and playing with her genitals, which brings her to orgasm, but she has real trouble  being intimate with me.

I have put up with this for many years but I feel that this relationship is one step forwards and then two steps back. When I leave,  she says she doesn’t want me to go, but when I have been away for a couple of days, it takes a couple of hours for her to calm down. She has had mild mental heath problems in the past. I’m getting tired of this “50 first dates” feeling, when we have been apart for a few days, it’s wearing me down. And her problem with intimacy with my genitalia just makes it worse, she won’t talk about it, I think she needs to see a therapist, sorry that was a long one.

I have a problem in sex. I ejaculate premature. i do not satisfy my sex mate. Help!

At 50 after some 30 years of a disappointing sex life, I’m starting to become VERY COMFORTABLE with the idea of being single, alone, and sexless for the rest of my life.

To the rest of the frustrated mid-age women, I say, “Sorry, ladies, but what comes around goes around.”

I’ll welcome arguments to the contrary, but why should I care if my libido is down after 40, or 50, or 60?