Post-Pandemic Relationship Repair (and more…) As I’ve written previously, this podcast is my personal favorite hosted by Seattle sex therapist Diana Wiley, Ph.D., who happens to be an old friend. How can couples rewrite their…

Marie Silva and her husband, Jack, both act in pornographic videos. Marie has made a modest name for herself, appearing in two dozen productions, among them: Sex Across America 5, Anal Addicts 2, and Nasty…

Read Part 1 here and Part 2 here. In alleged “sex addiction,” the real issues are usually guilt and shame about being sexual. Sex comes in three varieties: procreative, relationship-affirming, and recreational. Humans have always…

Michael Castleman Has Recipes For Renewing Ardor By Corrie M. Anders, The Noe Valley Voice A Noe Valley author has written a new self-help book that may be the ideal complement to that box of…

Enjoying great sex isn’t all that complicated. Just embrace these nine elements. Each of us is sexually unique. We all have complicated personalities and highly individual lovemaking preferences. Put two erotically unique individuals together, and…

I was recently a guest on Diana Wiley’s podcast “Love, Lust and Laughter.” We discussed my new book, couple desire differences, and the advantages and disadvantages for couple intimacy of sheltering in place.  Diana Wiley,…

Platitudes say it hurts. Most studies say it helps. New research clarifies. An old joke asks: What’s the quickest way to destroy sexual satisfaction in a relationship? Get married. The punch line reflects the tendency…

Brief fantasies hours before lovemaking can help ignite later sexual heat. Even among lovers with major libidos, arousal can be a challenge. Many people want hot sex, but have trouble heating up. Fortunately, sex therapists…

Not long ago, the U.S. government prohibited almost all research into the effects of marijuana, now increasingly called cannabis. But in recent years, 28 states and the District of Columbia have legalized medical marijuana and…

Menopause is not an illness, not a disease. It’s a life passage—a perfectly natural passage. It might be easy for the woman in your life. Or it might be difficult for her—and for you. The…