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I want a MMF threesome. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 years. Everything’s perfect except I have a fetish about her having sex with another man considerably better endowed than I. I’ve had this fetish for a long time and I don’t think it’s going to go away. I just want to know is it weird? Do others do this? And how do I tell her? I want to make it a reality.

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  • Michael Castleman says:

    No, threesomes are not weird. But they’re a minority pleasure. Only around 2 to 3 percent of adults play that way, some frequently, most occasionally. But 2 or 3 percent means many many people, in the UK, hundreds of thousands. MMFs are not weird, just a variation on normal and healthy.

    About turning your fantasy into reality: Sexual fantasies can feel super-vivid and very compelling to the point where you become totally convinced you want to turn them into reality. That may be the case, but sometimes people who get their fantasies to come true feel oddly turned off. That may not happen with you, but please be prepared for the possibility.

    The easiest way to broach this issue is to ask your gf if she would accompany you to a sex/swing club with the proviso that you play ONLY with each other. Watching non-monogamy is less threatening than jumping right into it. If she’s willing to go SEE MMF at a sex or swing club, the next step would be to gently suggest the possibility of playing that way. If she’s open to that, it’s very important to talk about all the possibilities and develop ground rules you both commit to, things like, a “safe” signal if either of you feels uncomfortable, and moves you both feel comfortable and maybe uncomfortable with her trying with the other guy. I’d also ask her about your size fantasy. You want her to play with a very well endowed man, but if she’s willing to play in a threesome, she may not be into a super-size guy. Many women don’t like huge erections. So that’s something to discuss. There are sex and swing clubs in every major metropolitan area, many smaller communities, and quite a few rural locales. Search “sex and swing clubs” and your location. Or try a club at a vacation destination.

    For more on this, I suggest you obtain a copy of my low-cost e-article, The Couple’s Guide to Occasional Non-Monogamy. It comes with a money-back guarantee through PayPal, so it’s risk-free.

    I wish you great sex, however you enjoy it.

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