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I’m a 70-year-old heterosexual male. My wife (68) and I have been married for 46 years. I think about sex ALL the TIME! I like to watch porn (erotic clips and movies), and now that I’m retired, I have more time to do so. My wife and I have sex (make love) 2-3 times per week. If I could have an erection, I’d love to have sex EVERY DAY! My wife knows that I watch porn, and she gets angry with me, I think because she considers it “cheating.” I have NEVER had an extra-marital hookup! I don’t even masturbate to the porn! In the past, we have even enjoyed viewing some porn together! We just got some sex toys: a butt plug for me, Ben Wah balls and a dick-shaped vibrator for her. She’s still well lubricated after some foreplay (thank God). I love to have oral sex, and she seems to enjoy it, too. We don’t always reach climax during a sex session; sometimes it take a second or third session. Of course, we hardly “CUM” at the same time. We’re OK with that. My wife doesn’t like to use lube. She used to love riding me cowgirl style (both obverse and reverse). I think the vibrator’s too big for her pussy. We still have fun; but, of course, I want more. Any suggestions? Thanks. Signed: a normal sex addict.

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  • Michael Castleman says:

    First, I see no evidence that you’re “addicted” to porn. Addiction implies sexual compulsivity, the inability to resist the lure of porn, with watching producing clearly negative consequences, like problems at work. So when you worked, you used to watch some porn, and now that you’re retired and have more discretionary time, you watch more. So what? Golfers who retire play more golf. Gardeners who retire spend more time in their gardens. That’s not addiction. It’s simply pursuing one’s interests. Except for your wife’s disapproval, has your porn viewing had any negative consequences? Have you blown off commitments to work, family, friends to watch? You don’t even stroke to the porn you watch. I see nothing to suggest you’re compulsive or out of control. My opinion: You’re fine. You’re not a bad husband. You’re a perfectly normal man.

    You say your wife considers your porn viewing cheating. In surveys of women’s attitudes regarding their spouses’ porn watching, about 25 percent hold that view. Around half may not love porn but don’t think men viewing it constitutes any crisis. And about 25 percent of women watch porn, usually as your wife has, with their men. So your wife is in the minority—but she feels what she feels, and you have to deal with that. Most women who rail against porn blame it for taking their men away from them: “He’d rather stroke to porn than have sex with me.” Your situation is different. You and your wife still have a VERY active sex life for your ages. And you say you don’t even stroke to porn. I urge you to be as loving and attentive to your wife’s needs as you can be to let her know that you’re not at all abandoning her for porn. You might also view it more discreetly. But again, in my opinion, you’re fine.

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