I’m interested in why someone would feel aroused by being locked in a pitch black closet, or isolated in another similar way. I know this may be a very broad question and everyone has a different answer. But psychologically, what are the patterns?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    The short answer is: I don’t know. I have no idea why someone would get turned on by voluntary isolation.

    The longer answer is that there’s no explaining erotic arousal. Why do foot fetishists get turned on by a nice set of toes? Why do some people love to kiss while others don’t care for it? There’s really no explaining sexual arousal.

    But voluntary isolation strikes me as an offshoot of things like blindfolding and restraint, aspects of BDSM (bondage, discipline, and sado-masochism). Lovers who enjoy being blindfolded generally say that with their sense of sight denied, they can tune in more deeply to touch and other erotic play. For some, voluntary isolation may serve the same purpose, heightening sensual arousal. If you’re unfamiliar with BDSM, you might think that those who enjoy playing that way are weird or mentally ill. They’re not. Studies show that aficionados of BDSM are a snapshot of mentally healthy Americans. They just like their sex with a bit of kink. If you’d like to learn more, I suggest you read my low-cost article, A Loving Introduction to BDSM. All my resources carry a money-back guarantee, so they’re risk-free.

    I hope this helps.

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