I just turned 81. I can make myself have an orgasm, but I’m afraid I don’t get very moist down there. It’s an issue because I met someone. We haven’t had sex yet, but I’m concerned that when we do, I’ll be dry.


  • Michael Castleman says:

    In an 81-year-old woman, vaginal dryness is perfectly normal—and usually pretty easy to deal with. The simplest way to lubricate any future vaginal play with your friend is to use saliva, either yours applied using your fingers, or your partner’s, applied the same way or with the tongue during oral sex. Saliva is free and always available, but it’s not very slippery.

    You might also try vegetable oil. It’s inexpensive and slippery, but some lovers object to its messiness. To keep oil off your sheets, try making love on a bath towel.

    Or try a commercial sex lubricant, for example, Astroglide or KY. Commercial lubes cost more than vegetable oil, but they’re still affordable, and they’re slippery. But they dry out pretty quickly. You can apply more or refresh with water or saliva.

    And if you’d like to learn more about lubricants and how they enhance lovemaking, read my low-cost e-article, The Slippery Secret of Great Sex.

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