We’re wondering if you know anything about them and can give us some advice?
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Yes, I do. First, people interested in occasional non-monogamy often believe that the way to dip a toe into the waters is to arrange a threesome. Actually, a foursome is the better way to start playing this way. With a threesome, there’s often an odd person out, and that person can feel threatened by what the other two are doing. With a couple-swap foursome, everyone is more likely to be occupied, so that’s usually more comfortable.
In addition, before you jump into a three- or foursome, or swing club or sex party, I urge you to take some time to develop some couple ground rules. What exactly are you willing to see your partner do with the stranger(s)? What’s beyond your personal limits? Do you want to play at your house? The stranger(s)’? Or a hotel? What if one of you becomes uncomfortable and want to leave? For best results, consider these issues—and any others that come to mind.
Finally, I suggest you read my low-cost article, The Curious Couple’s Guide to Occasional Non-monogamy. It goes into greater depth.
I hope you have fun!