I am a 40-year-old woman, married with one beautiful child. I am quite happy with my life so far. I am also a very big reader of porn fiction ( I even wrote and sell one and had very positive reviews and I draw also). I prefer porn fiction with rape themes. I know it may sound absolutely horrible, but I find it enjoyable that someone else takes away your guilt over sex (because rape fantasy is not about being raped, but that is another story). While being on a porn novel website, girls from the “third wave movement” began to complain about those comics, and were also shaming others for liking it. One girl even apologized: ” I am going to hell for liking it.” I immediately told her: “good girls go to heaven, others go everywhere.” Still, I find the shaming thing very disturbing, since I believe women should be free to enjoy sex the way they want. Besides, why go on a porn site and shame others who were peacefully reading and minding their own business?
Until now I did not feel ashamed for having my fantasies, but these violent comments make me uncomfortable about freedom of speech and freedom of sexuality. Is the society becoming more and more prudish? Or am I just becoming a pervert who thinks she’s just open-minded?
I am so confused. Your thoughts?

Responses

  • Michael Castleman says:

    There’s absolutely NO shame in women having rape fantasies. The studies show that around one-third of women have fantasies of losing control, being forced, and worse.

    But they’re fantasies. In fantasy, everything is permitted and nothing is wrong. Fantasies are just a way to play with scenarios we might not ever want to experience in real life. Many men have fantasies of being the hero, rescuing women from armed gangs or burning buildings—without the slightest wish to confront a thugs with guns or be trapped in high-rise fires.

    Of course, self-styled thought police troll around condemning what they disapprove of. But as you say, if they think rape fantasies are so wrong, why are they on the site?

    You’re fine and so are your fantasies, whatever they may be. Rock on and don’t let the haters spoil your fun or get you confused.

    And if you’d like to read about a fascinating study of why women have rape fantasies, I suggest you buy a copy of my low-cost e-article, Women’s Rape Fantasies: How Common Are They? What Do They Mean? I bet the article helps you sleep better at night and enjoy your fantasies more.

    I wish you great sex—and great erotic fantasies.

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