I need to learn how to let go of my husband’s porn use. Everything else in our marriage is great and I feel that things in bed would be even better if I could just let go or ignore or come to terms with the fact that he views porn. Yes very aware that it’s normal and it’s his stress relief kinda like how he watches sports. I just need to let go and I feel things would be better in bed. There aren’ really problems with him, but it’s always in the back of my mind. We have been married for 6 years and together for 15. I was a virgin he was not. Help me please.

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  • Michael Castleman says:

    I’m very glad you have a happy marriage. I’m also glad you understand that virtually all men view porn and use it as a masturbation aid for self-soothing and stress-relief. But still, you’re pre-occupied with his porn use.

    You ask: How to let go of this? So my question for you is: How do you let go of other irritants in your life? See if you can apply what you do to this.

    Beyond that, all spouses can identify things they don’t like in their other half. Part of the work of marriage is to let go of them, especially when, overall, the marriage is in good shape. I urge you to count your blessings. I get lots of questions from women who complain that their husbands/boyfriends would rather watch porn than have sex with them. Or that their porn-watching men are neglecting school, work, family, and friends because of X-rated media. But you say all is well. That’s great. I urge you to believe yourself, that your marriage is fine. And in that case, what’s the harm in him watching some porn?

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