Unhappy couple having problems at bedroom family conflict

After stopping masturbation and significant use of porn, I’ve been suffering from major depression and anxiety. Since quitting them, sex with my partner has become more interesting, however, a couple of times I’ve ejaculated too early. Last night was the worst ever, only lasting about 1 minute. And that’s not normal for me at all. I’m 28 and I’m quitting my porn addiction. How can I help myself? Will it pass? How can I treat myself so l’m less stressed?

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  • Michael Castleman says:

    Depression is a potentially serious mental health problem. I urge you to see a doctor about it. However, the physician or psychiatrist is likely to prescribe an SSRI anti-depressant (Prozac, Paxil, Zoloft, or others). These drugs are notorious for causing sex problems: typically inability to get to orgasm/ejaculation, but also possibly erection difficulties. Fortunately, another antidepressant, Wellbutrin (bupropion) works just as well with much lower risk of sexual side effects. If a doctor thinks you should take an anti-depressant, request Wellbutrin. For more, see my low-cost e-article on Wellbutrin. It carries a money-back guarantee through PayPal so it’s risk-free.

    Masturbation is one way most men (and some women) deal with emotional stress. Orgasm is calming. You say you’ve stopped masturbating and now feel more anxiety. That’s not surprising. You’ve stopped doing the thing that’s calmed you. So you’re more stressed.

    Stress is a major cause of premature ejaculation, so it’s not surprising that refraining from self-sexing has led to PE.

    Although the term sex/porn addiction has become firmly embedded in our lexicon, you may not be aware that the large majority of mental health professionals reject the whole idea of sex/porn addiction. It’s not masturbating to porn than causes addiction or distress. Usually what causes the distress is not solo sex or porn, but distorted beliefs that porn and masturbation are harmful/sinful/evil. They’re not. They’re normal. Chances are excellent that you’re not addicted to porn. You may view it more than you want—or more than your lover wants. But virtually every man on Earth with an Internet connection watches porn. If you want to watch it less, I suggest you search “changing a habit.” I’m confident you can take control of your viewing while still using masturbation to porn to deal with your stress.

    Relieving your stress with solo sex may be all that’s necessary to return you to good ejaculatory control. Or you might consider relieving your stress in other ways: exercise, yoga, meditation. If your PE persists, I suggest you purchase a copy of my low-cost e-booklet, The Cure for Premature Ejaculation. It presents a self-help version of the proven sex-therapy program for gaining solid ejaculatory control. It also carries a money-back guarantee through PayPal, so it, too is risk-free.

    I wish you great sex, solo and partnered.

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