I don’t desire sex at all. When my husband touches me during sex, I don’t feel anything except bored. I’m 33 years old. I never experience how good sex can be. Plz help me. I’m sick over this.

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  • Michael Castleman says:

    It’s possible that you’re in the 1% or so of the population who are asexual. They are simply not interested in sex, period. If that resonates, I suggest you visit the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). The site can answer your questions and help you connect with other asexuals.

    It’s also possible that your and your husband don’t understand the fine points of lovemaking, the easy moves that can turn it from boring to marvelous. Do you schedule your sex? Do you coach each other on the kinds of caresses you like? Does he provide you with oral sex every time? If you answer “no,” then I urge you both to read my low-cost e-book, Enjoy the Best Sex of Your Life. It’s 135 chapters discuss all aspects of fulfilling lovemaking and how best to resolve the many issues that inevitably come up. My e-book comes with a money-back guarantee through PayPal so it’s risk-free.

    Finally, if you’re not asexual and my e-book doesn’t completely turn things around, then I’d suggest a short course of sex therapy for individualized coaching. If you’re unfamiliar with sex therapy, the therapist does NOT have sex with you and does NOT watch you have sex. Sex therapy is a form of talk-based psychotherapy with “homework.” It usually takes four to six months of weekly one-hour sessions. It costs $150-200/hour, though many therapists discount fees for those who can’t afford standard rates. For more, read my low-cost article, An Intimate Look at Sex Therapy, and/or see the film, “Hope Springs” with Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones. To find a sex therapist near you, visit the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, or the American Board of Sexology.

    I wish you great sex.

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