Among “Old Married Couples,” Does the Quality of Sex Decline?

I’m post-menopausal. I can not have complete sexual intercourse. Even if I use lubricant, penetration can not be deep I do not get orgasms. I have little feeling  in my vaginal area, just by touching the clitoris. Is this normal after menopause for women??

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  • Michael Castleman says:

    Yes, your situation is not only normal, but quite common. With menopause, many women experience two problems: vaginal dryness and thinning of the tissue in the vaginal wall (vaginal atrophy). Both of these can make penis-vagina intercourse uncomfortable, or in severe cases, impossible.

    With significant vaginal dryness and atrophy, the chances of orgasm during intercourse decline. Fortunately, the vagina plays only a supporting role in most women’s orgasms. Women’s orgasm trigger is the clitoris. If you can’t have orgasms during intercourse, but can with clitoral play, you’re totally normal.

    As lovers age, sex changes. Most men develop erection issues, and many women develop the problems you’re having. Consequently, intercourse often becomes problematic. Older couples who remain sexual usually evolve their lovemaking away from intercourse toward “outercourse,” all the other pleasurable ways to make love: kissing, cuddling, mutual whole-body massage, hand jobs, oral sex, toys, and possibly some anal or kinky play. For more on this, read my low-cost e-article, Great Sex Without Intercourse. It carries a money-back guarantee through PayPal so it’s risk-free.

    I wish you great sex.

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