I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend three days ago. I believe I am currently ovulating, so my cervix is sitting very low. During intercourse, I believe he kept bumping against it which was uncomfortable in certain positions. Afterward, there was a lot of pain and bleeding. The blood spotting stopped after a day or so, but it freaked me out and I’m still very concerned. I know that there’s a possibility of different std’s associated with the symptoms, but this was only my third time having sex and it was always with the same partner, who has been checked and is clean. I’m very bloated and having sporadic pelvic pain. Any suggestions or recommendations are extremely helpful and appreciated.


  • Michael Castleman says:

    I have several recommendations for you:
    • If you want to get pregnant, monitor yourself with a home pregnancy test, available over-the-counter at drug stores. If the test turns positive, see your family doctor or gynecologist promptly to begin prenatal care.
    • If you don’t want to get pregnant, go to a drug store right now, buy “Plan B” or one of the other post-sex (morning-after) contraceptives and take it as directed. If his sperm found your egg, post-sex contraceptives prevent the fertilized cell from attaching to your uterine wall and becoming a fetus. The sooner you take post-sex birth control, the more likely you are to prevent the pregnancy.
    • You’re correct in observing that the head of an erect penis can bump into the cervix, causing pain and bleeding, especially in the rear-entry (doggie style) position. The best way to deal with this is to discuss it with your boyfriend. Explain what’s going on—he may not know. Then during intercourse, coach him not to push in so deeply in any position that causes you discomfort.
    • Your bleeding stopped after a day, so chances are it was nothing serious. Still, vaginal bleeding other than during menstrual flow should be checked out by a medical professional. So should sex-related pain. See your family doctor or gynecologist promptly. Or go to a family planning clinic like Planned Parenthood.
    • And while you’re at your doctor, gynecologist, or PP, if you don’t want to get pregnant, ask a counselor to tell you about all the many available birth control options. Ideally, your boyfriend would be with you and together the two of you can decide which method feels best for you. Then use it faithfully until you want to get pregnant.
    • Finally, you’re no longer a virgin, but you’re still not very sexually experienced, and I bet you have questions about how to enjoy high-quality sex. I suggest that you check out the GreatSexGuidance.com Information Library, which contains 135 low-cost e-articles about all aspects of lovemaking. I bet several would interest you and your bf. Articles can be purchased separately, or you can buy them all for one very low price. Either way, my materials carry a money-back guarantee through PayPal, so they’re risk free. I wish you a life of great sex, but to get there, you need to be well-informed about the fine points of lovemaking. My e-book should help.

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