We have been together 3+ years, living together 2+. He’s 70, I’m 68. Our sex life was good, but has dropped off to almost nothing. He has rejected me so many times it hurts. I thought it was due to his medical issues (diabetes, HBP) and recovery from his heart problems (stents put it) but now he is back to golf, etc.& his doctor has cleared him. We have had sex twice in the last 6 months. When I asked about his porn use & if he was doing that vs having sex with me, he denied it. I offered to watch it w/him. I was heartbroken & dismayed when I (sadly) snooped & found he has been online with multiple (young) women, spending $$ and messaging them. The messages read as if he cares about them. He goes online to watch live cam sex models when I go to bed. I love him dearly but feel like a fool. He has been doing this for the entire time we have been together. I’m ready to call it quits. I don’t expect him to stop watching porn but how do I get him to talk about improving our sex life? Help!!!
Why does he go online for sex vs having it with me?
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