My wife says that before she met me, when she was 17 to 21, she had sex and orgasms with a couple guys. Each relationship lasted a year or so, and while involved with them she says she had sex like once a week. She says the guys made her cum and then they came. Like 60 percent of her orgasms were from intercourse.  So, is that alot of sex? Is it above average? And the fact that she and her bf both came, it that within or out of the norm? She’s  also said you can have an orgasm but not enjoy it. Is her story likely? Or is she just trying to make me feel better that she didn’t enjoy the sex as the numbers would indicate?



  • Michael Castleman says:

    I’m not sure I understand what’s upsetting you, but I’ll do my best to answer your questions.

    Young adulthood is typically a time of sexual experimentation and most Americans lose their virginity in the age range of 16 to 21 or so. It sounds to me that your wife’s early sexual experiences fall well within the normal/typical. She had sex around once a week. Also quite typical. And 60 percent of her orgasms happened during intercourse. That’s actually a greater percentage than many, possibly most women. Many women don’t have orgasms during intercourse because it doesn’t provide enough direct clitoral stimulation to get them there. Those women need direct clitoral caresses from hand jobs, oral sex, or vibrators. So your wife may be somewhat more erotically responsive than most women.

    I’m inferring that you feel badly that she came with these other guys. If that’s true, why do you feel that way? She was learning how to have sex, and her orgasms demonstrate that she and her previous bfs did it enjoyably enough to get her off. In my book, that’s good.

    Is she having trouble coming with you? If so, I suggest you read my low-cost e-book, Enjoy the Best Sex of Your Life. Among its 135 chapters, several discuss how men can help women have orgasms and many others provide guidance for having high-quality, consistently mutually orgasmic sex. The e-book carries a money-back guarantee, so it’s risk free.

    Like I said, I’m not sure what’s really bothering you, but I bet the information in my e-book helps you with information and perspective. Good luck.

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