I’m a 59 and completely devastated to realize that sexual pleasure, one of my greatest joys, had been ripped away because of the prostatectomy I had last November for cancer. I’m so grief-stricken that I can hardly function; this is torture. Yes, the urologist explained that I “might” develop “some” erectile dysfunction, but he never said I’d wind up like overcooked spaghetti. He says he was able to spare one nerve line, but I’m batting zero. How can I cope with never having sex again? WTF!!??