My wife was brought up very conservatively. When we met, we didn’t talk much about sex. She thought that anything other than vanilla, missionary sex was wrong, and early in our relationship, didn’t even want any foreplay or lube.
However, over the years, as our relationship has grown, we have gradually introduced new things into our sex life and now have a great marriage and good sex. But I have always kind of had to guess what she really wants in bed. When I ask, she just says that what we’re doing now is o.k. We have lots of foreplay, occasionally use sex toys, enjoy intercourse in different positions, and my wife loves it when I give her oral. She prefers sex from behind so that I can reach around and stimulate her clitoris.
Last night I was stimulating her clit and she put my penis between her butt cheeks, I was thrusting gently and she was enjoying it and obviously getting very moist inside. Then she said , “Oh I’m very nervous. Shall we use some lube.” So I applied some lube to her and to myself. At this point I assumed she wanted to try anal sex. So we continued as before and gradually I worked my penis towards her anus. She liked it and was getting excited, but then when I entered her she said, “I’m not interested in anything like that.” So I pulled out and we stopped.
I had a completely sleepless night last night. I really don’t know what to do. I can’t work out if I merely misread the situation, which is what I told my wife last night, or if she wanted anal but then didn’t like it, or if she is playing some kind of game with me. I take no as no but I am kind of lost as to how to progress. Help please.