Me and my partner have been together for almost two years–with a seven month break–and in the beginning, his penis would not take a break. Often times, we made love for the better part of 48 hours, all night or until the sun came up. Most recently, we cuddled and made love over a nine-hour period. After that, his erections were less vigorous and he began avoiding sex with me. When I initiated a conversation about it, he became defensive and said it’s my fault–that I stress him out and it has an effect on his erections. In addition, he’s become much more selfish: just the other night, I explained how the erection problem is taking a toll on me. I said, “I don’t have the urge to have sex anymore,” to which he replied “I don’t want to talk about that. I just want to enjoy what I’m feeling right now.” Furthermore, he often will finish before I’m satisfied leaving me in a perpetual state of desire. It’s very frustrating and creates a vicious cycle of me not wanting to have sex because I fear feeling used and unappreciated.
In all honesty, I’m not the easiest person to get along with, I do want him a lot sexually and we’ve been experiencing financial difficulty. What can I do to help solve this issue? Please help!