Hi Michael: I suffer great anxiety over my man’s porn watching. I was happy to find your article explaining that men self-sooth by using porn, and that they still love and desire their woman. But at the very end you switched it to men using porn to turn them on for partnered sex, which to me is completely different. Please explain why that man who was turned on by porn isn’t imagining the woman who turned him on in the first place? Why isn’t he disappointed when he turns away from the fantasy and sees his true to life woman? I get older everyday and there’s an endless supply of young woman for him to fantasize about, how can I understand this?
His porn, her pain
