I’ve been with my girlfriend for three and a half years. I’m still very young so we’re both of each other’s firsts. We’ve been having sex now for about 2 years and I have only helped her orgasm once. I’ve read articles online everywhere and read online forums for advice all the time, I’ve read some books about the female orgasm and I still have little hope. I do feel like I can maybe make her squirt during sex because she always tells me she feels like she has to pee but that’s what makes her want to stop. I’ve read online that women often feel that way when they are about to squirt so that’s why I am confident as far as that goes. Yes, I have tried to convince her to just “let it out” but she isn’t willing to do so and I can’t think of anything to do otherwise. Also, I feel like a very important factor is that when she does orgasm, it’s one dimensional, she’s been doing it the same way since she started, riding a pillow and watching porn. I have bought her 2 vibrators that she doesn’t care to use, literally and has never even tried to use one of them. I have recently bought her a dildo that she suggested, and she incorporated that into her one dimensional orgasm and told me that it felt different but her method of achieving orgasm was the same. I have never blamed her for not being able to cum because I do feel as though my technique plays a major role, regardless if she knew other ways to make herself cum. I don’t know any so I take the blame for that but our relationship is very special and she can make me achieve orgasm through oral, hand jobs and obviously sex. She didn’t enjoy oral at first, because she said it made her really uncomfortable, but later admitted that it was her being self-conscious and not being used to direct stimulation with her vagina. She enjoys it more now and lets me know that I have gotten better at it but she still rarely asks me for it. I just want to please her and learn her body to consistently make her cum because I feel selfish when she makes me cum and she doesn’t. She doesn’t think its that big of a deal, yet. However, I want to diminish the problem before it emerges. I have considered a sex counselor but I cannot afford one right now so here I am. I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO, she wants to take things slow but we have been taking things slow for 2 years now.
How to help my girlfriend orgasm?
