I’m 32, my husband 38, and we’ve been together for 5 years. Ever since the beginning, I felt like we have had issues in our sex life. I think the main issue is that he has a much lower libido than I do, so for him it doesn’t seem to be an issue if we go 3 weeks without sex. For me, it is. I have tried so many things: lingerie, oral, walking around naked… when I do walk around naked, I get the same reaction as if I were wearing 30 layers! He has had everything tested, hormones etc., and what has come back is weight. He is overweight, I won’t lie. I know it’s a factor for the physical side, but it almost seems as though he just doesn’t think about sex at all. I do notice that he has pictures of women saved on his phone – often tattooed or “goth” women. And when we do go to have sex, the ONLY thing that works for his arousal is if I hand job him from flaccid to ready – 15mins on average – and the sex has never lasted more than 5mins our entire relationship. Now, he wants to start a family which we know won’t be easy for us, and he still won’t/can’t make the effort. I’m just looking for suggestions on what we can try. Thanks for reading 🙂