I have been trying for years to open my wife up to fuck other men. A few years ago she opened up to sexting with me and another man. She enjoyed it and participated and we all three enjoyed it. Then suddenly, as if she was spooked, she said she didn’t want to do it anymore. My whole motivation was to have it evolve into her fucking the other man while I watched, or having a threesome with her. I was very disappointed but kept trying to convince her. She listened. She rarely said that she didn’t think it was for her as she had previously. I took it slow but would bring it up to her occasionally without pushing too hard. Finally, she said she had reservations because she wanted to get in better shape and build up her self-esteem. I didn’t push her but suggested I get her a personal trainer and we could see how it goes. She has been going to a personal trainer now for six months and she said how much of an improvement she has noticed in herself physically. I took the opportunity to tell her that I fully support her working out and love that she is pleased with her growing self-esteem. I told her that I wanted her to continue because although I thought she looked amazing even before going to a personal trainer, I wanted her to feel good so we could explore her being with other men. I suggested sensual massage as an ice breaker and she never said “no”. She just asked if anyone could hear me as I was having this conversation with her on my lunch break over the phone. She just asked me if her working out and looking better wasn’t enough for me. I replied that it was and seeing her feeling and looking better together with me wanting her to explore her sexuality with another man and being fully satisfied makes it the perfect combination. She never said no and I didn’t want to push it any further. I ended the conversation by telling her that I would support her and will pay for her to continue seeing a trainer and we can see where it goes. How should I interpret this? Please help!
I want my wife to fuck other men. She gives mixed messages.
