My wife of 19 years has started asking for anal sex. I like that she’s asking for what she wants and desires. The thing is… I don’t desire anal sex. I’m a 48 yo guy and my wife thinks there’s something wrong with me. She says every red blooded male wants anal. I just don’t. I get anxious when trying to penetrate her. I sweat. My breath quickens and it isn’t fun. We use toys. My fingers. And I see how much pleasure it brings her. She keeps insisting a real man would just be having a field day with her ass. What can I do to change this about me? I feel inadequate, like I’m letting her down by not wanting this. It’s turned into a lot of pressure because she wants more than fingers and toys and I just don’t.
She wants anal sex, but I don’t want to do that
