My wife of 27 years and I have hit a challenging period in our sexual life. Due to medications, her libido is pretty much nonexistent with only infrequent requests for sex. I am good about helping her get there but our sex is only about her as she usually falls asleep after her moment. Due to my erection issues, she prefers oral or digit stimulation. She still would like to do penis/vaginal sex but it’s very rare that I can do that.
On that rare moment, she experiences a lot of pain with the penetration. We lubricate quite a bit but it still hurts and I pull back. I am assuming it’s due to the very infrequent amount of penetration she experiences. Also, she had a bladder net put in a few years ago and that seems to be part of it.
I am ok with doing her orally, but she is not into it anymore for me, and in fact really doesn’t like touching me down there. I am conscientious about hygiene so I am sure that is not the issue. I try to talk to her about it, just says she doesn’t like touching my penis (flaccid or erect) with no other explanation.
Trying to come up with some strategies to improve this and so far none. Any ideas…