Conventionally, a heterosexual virgin is a person who has not had penis-vagina intercourse (PVI). Our cultural focus on losing virginity implies an either-or situation—virgin or not. Actually, sexual initiation usually involves a gradual escalation of…
Two big problems with erection aids sold online—low doses and bogus reviews In a previous post, I discussed research showing that online offers for Viagra and other erection drugs rarely contain pharmacologically active doses of…
Many women are happy to have lovers ejaculate in their mouths and swallow the semen. Others can’t stand the idea. If women object to accepting semen orally, men should respect their wishes. No one should…
Do you like R-rated movies with steamy sex scenes? Most people do. There’s a little bit of voyeur in most of us. Do you ever wear tight, form-fitting, or revealing clothing? Most people do from…
A new approach involves brief group therapy that nurtures sex worth wanting Part 1 summarized the many myths about desire differences and the sex-therapy approach to resolving them—using either self-help or professional therapy. The sex-therapy…
In the Bible, assuming that men could support more than one wife, they were free to be polygamous. Tradition says that King Solomon had 1,000 wives. However, for the past 2,000 years, most Western cultures…
Let go of the myths, negotiate a compromise frequency, and schedule sex dates. One wants sex more often than the other. If you’ve been involved in a relationship for more than a year or so,…
If men made love the way most women prefer, both sexes would feel more sexually fulfilled—and many relationships would improve out of bed as well as between the sheets. If men made love the way…
The berries of the ironically named “chaste” tree boost libido and much more. The lovely lavender flowers of the chaste tree (Vitex agnus-castus), a shrub native to the Mediterranean, produce small, dark fruits (berries) resembling…
Most alleged sex addicts aren’t compulsive or addicted, just misinformed. Sexual compulsivity or out-of-control sexual behavior has been documented. So has being sexually turned on by bees—melissaphilia. Like melissaphilia, true sexual compulsivity is rare. It…
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