At age 63 I lost my bladder and associated organs to cancer [not my testicles or penis]. I can still have orgasms with sufficient oral and manual stimulation from my wife. I am now 80 y/o and she’s 77. She still orgasms with a vibrator, but is now hesitant to accept cunnilingus to achieve O. She used to accept oral but now doesn’t want to. She won’t say why. ANY THOUGHTS?
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I have no idea why your wife is no longer into receiving cunnilingus. Sad that she won’t say why.
Her loss of interest might have two causes—something about her, or about you. If it’s something about her, she might feel concerned with her vaginal smell and taste at age 77. You might reassure her. Or she might feel concerned that with oral, she takes “too long” to come. You might reassure her about that, too. Or she might just not care for oral anymore. It happens. In sex, anything is possible.
If it’s something about you, I would explore how you provide cunnilingus. Many men lick the vulva too intensely. Women may experience that as uncomfortable or even painful. You might ask if you should lick her more gently or make other changes she’d prefer.
Beyond these suggestions, how is your marriage? If all’s well and you treat each other lovingly and laugh a lot and have a good time together, then her loss of interest in oral sex may simply be her personal preference at this stage of life. But if her retreat from accepting cunnilingus reflects problems in your relationship, then I’d suggest couples counseling.
I hope this helps!