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You stated in your AARP article about STI’s in older adults that you “might never have sex” with a partner if she was infected. You said you’d talk with several doctors. I guess you know it is so much more difficult for a positive female to pass to the male than the other way around. I guess you also know that with a suppressed virus, undetectable viral load, and good t-cell counts, having had a vasectomy before 30 years before being tested positive, and always using condoms during intercourse, is SAFE SEX. I became infected from my wife who was infected with blood transfusions around 1981. She did not know she was infected until 2000 and that is when I was also tested positive. I lost her in 2000 and have been searching for a partner that understands that with proper use of condoms, we can still have safe, sexual intercourse.

My name is Dr. Beth Fisher and I own Senior Medical Cannabis, an educational site for seniors who currently use or are interested in using medical Cannabis (where it’s legal). I am writing a blog post on Senior Sex: Cannabis vs. Pharmaceuticals. And YES, this is a serious question.

1) My seniors on Facebook (Senior Medical Cannabis) who usually are very vocal about many topics, are unusually silent on this topic. What is your take on this?

2) Any thoughts on my topic? I will inform them of the pharmaceuticals that lower libido, then discuss homeostasis when Cannabis is used, which typically results in a higher libido.

I am 60 years old and I have no sex drive. I do not want to be touched or fondled. It’s ok for my husband to wrap his arm around me as long as he doesn’t grab my breast. We still hold hands, but he insists on brushing against my breasts in public and saying, “Oh, I like that,” and that is offensive to me. He also pulls up my skirt or dress when I sit down claiming he likes my legs. They aren’t bad for a 60 year old, but I’m not 25 or 30 anymore. I feel at my age a little more dignity needs to be practiced, especially in public. I also feel my morals should be respected to a degree. Could he be having problems accepting the fact that he is aging? How do I deal with all of this?

I am 25 and my husband is 30. When I ask him for sex, 60 percent of the time, he refuses. Why?

My husband and I are very much in love, but he’s 59 and doesn’t want to have sex any longer. I am 11 years younger, and can’t accept giving up having sex with my husband. Help!

I am in my 40s and get erections effortlessly but lately find them hard to sustain. Recently my urologist suggested I take Viagra and it worked. Actually its effect remained for more than 24 hours. My concern: will it be harmful in the long run? Or can you suggest something different?

I am 43 years old and noticed recently that I do not have any sensitivity at the point of ejaculation. As a result this part of sexual experience does not give any satisfaction. Otherwise, sex is fine including easy erection and maintaining it. But at ejaculation, there is little feeling when I come. My doctor can not diagnose any problem. BTW I take no drugs, except Aleve ocassionally for a foot pain.

My boyfriend has a very large penis and I have not had sex in over 8 years. We’re having trouble with intercourse. We are in our 60s and he is very active and interested.

Do kegels make erections harder? Do they help premature ejaculation? Increase libido? Halt prostate swelling? Maintain erection after ejaculation? Is it worth doing kegels? Thanks.

My wife and girlfriend complain that I go flaccid as soon as I ejaculate, almost instantly. My girlfriend says her husband remains hard for at least 1 or 2 minutes after ejaculation which makes her come twice ….sometime thrice. I am 40 and no significant health problems. Still I don’t have great sex life. I don’t feel like going for sex every after few days. It’s often once or twice a month. Then I come  first and go soft instantly!! I’ve also been doing kegels. Do you think that will help in the long run?