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I’m 40, married 10 years. My wife is caring and loving, but over the years, she has gained so much weight that she no longer turns me on. I’m also finding it hard to maintain my erection. I’ve tried sex with other women and don’t have any problems. My wife loves sex and I don’t want to hurt her. Please suggest.

What can I do to get my husband to like french kissing? He has never liked to make out except after he has been drinking?

I like smoking pot before sex. Seems to improve things. But I wonder if there’s any danger?

I was having sex with my boyfriend and it lasted quite some time. Roughly 45 minutes playing around with different positions. So for quite a long time we have been using the pull out method, yes we know the risks and so far so good. Anyways this time when he pulled out and came the ejaculate was clear like water as opposed to the usual thicker white color. I want to know if that means he already came inside me (he said he did not) or if this is a normal occurrence due to the perhaps prolonged sexual experience. I would also like to know if this could be a medical problem, he does sometimes have trouble keeping an erection, could they be related? Also I would like to add that we have not had sex for a week and he had not been masturbating. The clear semen is not due to a lack of rest in between. Thanks.

I really need your help. Please tell me is their a cure for premature ejaculation? And if so can u help me asap cause it is destroying my life. Please help!

My question has to do with orchiectomy (removal of testicles). Brief background: I was born with undescended testicles and had orchiopexy at age 10 to lower them into my scrotum. But it was a botched job that left me severely scarred and I later discovered that I was sterile and have hypogonadism (unusually low sex hormone production). I had always suffered with severe pain and scarring in the testicles, so much so that in 1997 I had the left side surgically removed and the right side in 2006. The pain is gone and I’m now on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), but it’s been a challenge getting the right dosage. Anyway, although I don’t have any testicular pain, I don’t have a lot of pleasurable sensation either. It has taken a lot for me to discuss new types of stimulation. Yes, it does require us to go outside of our comfort zone. We have found that stimulation of the prostate gives me a great deal of pleasure. However, I still feel ashamed as we had never done anything like this before in our sex life. My wife is a kind and loving person. I know she feels a bit uncomfortable about doing this. I can tell. Do other men who lose body parts—testicles, prostate—have difficulty regaining sexual confidence? This whole thing about losing my testicles has taken a toll on my self-esteem. I have been seeing a counselor for many years. I don’t feel normal whether physically or mentally. Thanks for any insight you may share.

Being well endowed, I have an over abundance of foreskin and even hangs over the head of my penis, even when I’m hard. I find that people enjoy teasing my foreskin and nibbling at it just before giving me a blowjob. Do you find that other men are as “into” their foreskins as I am?

I enjoyed reading your comments on rimming. I like to take the role as submissive bunghole rimmer when I rim a man or woman. I have a bisexual orgy once in a while of rimming and doing face sitting. It gets pretty wild. I know many men love rimming as I see it at a gay camp a lot. Rimming is such a turn-on!

Hi, I have been having premature ejaculation and I don’t know what to do because it wasn’t like this before. My finance is complaining seriously and she has decided not to have sex with me until I find a solution to it. Please, what do I need to do to put a stop to this recurring embarrasment? Thanks!

My wife’s libido has lessened in the last couple of years. We’re both 55 and  have been married for over 30 years. Now sex seems like an afterthought for her. Meanwhile, my desire has increased. She often says she wants it but then she’s taken to bathing late at night, knowing I will fall asleep before she gets out of the tub. So no deal. Please help. I’ve tried many different paths to deal with this, but with a college aged child still living at home, it’s not too easy to be spontaneous.