Free Q&A Archive

You say in your recent AARP article there is no harm in a man looking at porn to get aroused. What about the emotional harm it does to his wife? What about the low self esteem it cause his wife to know her husband can only get aroused by looking at younger women and not her? Why would any woman want to have sex with her husband when she isn’t the one who is turning him on and she isn’t the one he is thinking of while he is having sex. No harm in porn – I THINK NOT!

My penis was 9.5 inches long. It seems to have shrunk down to 6.5 inches. My sex life hasn’t been very exciting and I have put on about 50 pounds. What do you think?

I am a man over 40 facing a penis problem. My penis is always soft. If I get excited and want to have sex, then my penis does not get erected. Sometimes it does but only occasionally. Why? I want my penis big and hard at the time of sex when my sex partner is with me. Please give suggestions.

Last year I had sex with a girl who had a reputation for being with a lot of guys in my school and word was she gossiped about it after. While having sex, I was extremely nervous (in my head), unsure if I would please her, or if she would tell people my dick was small, or if I sucked in bed. Then I lost my erection! I was so shocked and scared. Now a few weeks ago I was going to have sex with another girl, but when we got naked in my bed, I lost my erection even though I had one earlier on the date as we were making out. This leads me to believe it’s all psychological yet I don’t know what to do to fix it!

Dear Mr. Castleman, I’m an 89 year old with a pretty good prostate though I’m using Saw Palmetto and 4 MG of Tamsulosin. I’m able to achieve half an erection. How can I improve?

No problem with erection, can stay erect for hours, but difficult to climax, any suggestions?

Hi Michael-Thanks for your site. Last year I had my prostate removed due to localized cancer. I am now very well. Nerves around the penis get damaged or destroyed during surgery in order to remove the cancer. On average they take 18months-2 yrs to regenerate. The Doctor has put me on injection therapy which works fairly well and I think my nerves may be regenerating. Standard medication is not effective at this stage. My question is: Do you know any way to speed up this process of regeneration and also is it true that lots of squatting either with weights or without, will help erections at any age? I am 66 yrs and keep fit.One finds it hard at times to do without this great gift which one always took for granted. Any info you can provide will be greatly appreciated.
John

How can I make my penis longer and larger  at age 56?

I am 22 and I feel very sexually attracted to a woman who is 30 and married with two kids. She and I are very close friends. I just don’t know if she  feels as I do. I need your suggestions on this.

Are there any pills that can arouse women sexually in few minutes ?