I have been married for 47 years. There is no sex period. Has not been for 20 years. You say sex without intercourse is great. It may be great for some couples but both partners must  be willing. In my case it can not be accomplished because there is only one willing partner. Also with a grown child and 2 grandchildren in the house there is no closeness.


  • Michael Castleman says:

    You’re absolutely right. Partner sex can only be great with two willing partners. I’m so sorry that you’ve been in a sexless marriage. You’re not the only one. According to the “Sex in America” survey of a representative sample of Americans age 18 to 59, 14% of the men and 10% of the women reported no sex at all in the previous 12 months. Now one year is nowhere near your 20, but there are plenty of folks who have a real good idea how you feel.

    You didn’t ask for advice, so I won’t offer, except to say there’s more than one way to skin a cat.

  • gr8momgerwien says:

    I am married to a man who has no interest in intimacy and it is a very lonely experience. Especially when your friends talk about how great their sex lives are. It seems sex is in books, on tv, everywhere so you are constantly reminded of what you don’t have. I am still angry but I try to think of the good things my husband brings to our marriage. Take care of yourself, exercise and read books. That helps me. Good luck!

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