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I’m a 53-year-old woman going through the Big Change. I’ve started to notice dryness down there. I’m using KY Jelly, but it reminds me of going to the gynecologist. Not very sexy. What can I do?

Before my hysterectomy, my doctor and friends who’d had the operation assured me that it causes no loss of sexual enjoyment. Well, I had surgery 8 months ago, and ever since, I’ve had problems. I still enjoy sex, just not as much as before. My husband’s touch doesn’t feel as…well, sexy as it used to. And I have trouble with orgasm. His tongue used to get me off every time. Now I need a vibrator. (Thank God for my Magic Wand!) I know my friends are being truthful when they say their hysterectomies caused no loss of sensation. So what’s wrong with me?

I’m 49. My husband is 56. I’ve initiated most of our sex, and that’s been frustrating because I rarely feel desired (though he tells me he wants me). Well, these past six months or so, he’s turned me down a lot more–and it’s driving me crazy. If he wants me as he says he does, why won’t he do anything about it? All I want is sex once a week or so. Is that too much to ask? I should mention that he’s healthy. It’s getting to the point where I’m resenting him and when we have sex, I just don’t enjoy it very much. How can I when in subtle and not-so-subtle ways he lets me know that he’s just doing it to shut me up. I thought men were into sex. Not my husband. Help!

I was married for 22 years, then widowed. My late wife never complained about the taste of my semen, but the new woman in my life does. I really like to come in a woman’s mouth, and my girlfriend’s complaints are causing tension between us. Why is she complaining when my wife never did? And is there anything I can do to improve the taste of my semen?

I’m healthy, happily married (34 years)–and not very hard anymore, even with Viagra. At the health food store, they have a good dozen supplements that claim to boost male sexual energy and performance with ingredients like ginseng, ginkgo, maca, and yohimbe. Do these products work? Or are they a rip-off?

Divorced 18 months ago, I’m now interested in dating. I signed up on a few dating sites, but I must say I’ve been disappointed. The men seem so flaky, and they LIE. One man said he “owned a business.” Turned out he was unemployed. Another said he was “trim.” Actually, he was quite overweight. Am I just having some bad luck? Or is the world of online dating filled with men who lie?