Indian couple in bedroom

Sometimes I want sex intensely, and my wife stops me without any reason. Is there a specific area to touch or specific action I might take, for example sucking on her breasts, that can arouse her FAST so that she allows me?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    You say she stops you “without any reason.” How about these reasons: She doesn’t want sex. She doesn’t get aroused quickly. She has other things to do….

    For many men, sexual desire is like an on-off switch. When it’s on, you want sex immediately. But few women operate that way. The large majority of women become aroused slowly, and don’t like it when men say, “I’m ready, let’s do it.”

    You and your wife have a desire difference. This is virtually inevitable in long-term relationships. Sex therapists have developed a program that usually resolves things, but it does NOT involve husbands dictating to their wives when the couple has sex. It involves negotiating how often each spouse would like sex, finding a compromise frequency, and then scheduling sex in advance. For more on this effective program, you might read the chapter on desire differences in my book, Sizzling Sex for Life.

    If you feel an intense desire for sex and your wife isn’t into it, I suggest taking matters into your own hands by self-sexing.

    I sincerely hope you can work out our desire difference in a way that’s mutually acceptable. If you don’t, you and your wife are likely to feel increasing resentment toward one another, and that’s not good for any marriage.

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