Before my hysterectomy, my doctor and friends who’d had the operation assured me that it causes no loss of sexual enjoyment. Well, I had surgery 8 months ago, and ever since, I’ve had problems. I still enjoy sex, just not as much as before. My husband’s touch doesn’t feel as…well, sexy as it used to. And I have trouble with orgasm. His tongue used to get me off every time. Now I need a vibrator. (Thank God for my Magic Wand!) I know my friends are being truthful when they say their hysterectomies caused no loss of sensation. So what’s wrong with me?
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I’m sorry that hysterectomy has cast a pall on your sex life. There’s nothing wrong with you. Most studies of sex after hysterectomy show that sexual side effects are “uncommon” to “rare.” But this means that some women experience problems. The most common complaints are the ones you describe: loss of sensitivity and responsiveness. Decreased vaginal lubrication is also possible.
It sounds like you’ve found workable ways to deal with your situation. But if you’d like additional help, I suggest that you and your husband consult a sex therapist. To find one near you, visit the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, or the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.