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I’m not sure if I have a problem or a fetish. I am a 45-year-old man and married for nearly 20 years. I’m a life long sufferer of PE and tried various things to try and last longer. However, I’ve recently thought of my PE as a fetish which has had the effect of making me even quicker, to the point where I cannot penetrate my wife’s vagina. I do try to satisfy her orally and she says she doesn’t mind me not penetrating her. However, is there a risk that over time the lack of intercourse could effect our emotional connection? The acceptance of my PE as a fetish has made me so quick I’m not sure how I could regain any control.

I remarried in 1990 and for many years our sex life was great, but it declined over time to non-existent. I am now 72, my wife 66. While on vacation to the ocean, our favorite place, she regained interest in sex, and it became a passion that I can’t understand. Now home, we are going to bed naked, listening to our favorite music till 2 a.m. I am so bothered by my inability to get an erection, as in days gone by, she says it does not batter, but to me it does. What to do?

After I gained weight, my husband stopped visiting me for sex. My weight gain turned him off, and he chose to masturbate instead of having sex with me. After a time (1 to 2) months he came back to have sex with me but says it was because it felt better. Ugg! Then he says he finally realized what he had in me as a wife…..wish I could believe him. He is now older and this has come to light only within the last two years. I am soooo crushed. Your thoughts?

I read something you wrote that made a lot of sense, but also left me with a
question. To paraphrase my understanding, you said that men have shown a
wide-ranging variety of preferences for female body types (beyond the Barbie-doll Playboy depiction) as evidenced by the many body types presented on porn websites. Here’s my question:

Do you think ideal female body type preferences held by males who came of age
during the Playboy era were influenced by the body types shown in Playboy and
similar magazines?

Everybody talks about desensitzing the penis when it comes to premature ejaculation. My problem is that I don’t think about how good it feels, but looking at my wife makes me ejaculate quicker. Such as looking at her breasts shake or her face tense up. Doggie style is the worst because I see her breasts dangling and within an instant I get to the point of no return and I ejaculate. I can’t find any information about about the visualizing just the sensitivity. I feel that I should close my eyes and think about something completely different. Although alcohol is not a good prescription, it definitely does help. I am just over forty and my premature ejaculation is worse now than when I was in my 20’s.

Usually when I have sex, I try to get as deep into women as possible. Yesterday I was with a woman and I had to back off a little bit. It was hard to stay in. She said she was small and tight. And her hole was all the way down towards the back, farther back than I’ve ever seen. Maybe this person had a sex change or something….  Is this normal?

Can a man perform sexually and reach orgasm if he is not sexually attracted to his partner?

I see you’re another sex expert who dismisses the reality of penis enlargement. Frankly, I don’t care whether you believe me or not, but I have been using a compression hanger (it’s called a BIB) to hang weights on my flaccid penis on & off for many years. My flaccid length when I first measured it, which was several years after I started was 3 1/2″. It is now 5 3/8″ My erect length which has been measured the same way started at 5 1/2″ and is now 7 1/8″. While hanging is not specifically intended to increase girth, my starting girth was 5 1/4″ and is now 5 15/16″ If I had been consistent, I know my results would have even been better ,but something, like a couple of moves or a death in the family, can happen and when you stop for a while, you can’t just go back to the amount of time you were hanging or to the weight. You have to slowly work back up and it’s only until I’m hanging ~17 +lbs in 20 minute sessions that add up to at least 10 hrs/week that I make any gains. I’m now in my 70s, am intimate with my gal several times/week and although there’s not multiple orgasms in a session anymore and my ejaculate volume is way down, my erect cock is hard as a rock and our lovemaking is wonderful. Now of course I eat clean, lift weights and indulge in numerous types of CV activities, none the less, this works.
Take care

Can I, an 80-year-old man, enjoy tantric masturbation even when flaccid? My usual penile posture!