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Is it possible to control the intensity of sexual desire without using chemical medications?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    Traditional approaches include cold showers, strenuous exercise, watching movies, or getting involved in other distractions.

    But a great deal of “excessive” sexual desire is associated with a sex-negative upbringing, coming from a family or religious tradition that insists sex is bad or sinful except for heterosexual procreation when married. Insisting on abstaining from self-sexing, or casual sex, or non-heterosexual sex is like saying: Don’t think of an elephant. Guess what everyone thinks of. When people told not to think about sex do, or when they gravitate toward anything other than heterosexual intercourse, they often become anxious, think about sex a great deal, and jump to the erroneous conclusion that they’re “sex addicts.” Many studies show that so-called sex addicts don’t think about sex more than most other people, and don’t have more sex than most others. They just feel more distressed about it. If that’s you, I suggest consulting a sex therapist to help you explore your sexual upbringing and how to move beyond its prohibitions. To find a sex therapist near you, visit the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, or the American Board of Sexology.

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