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You’re all wrong about female masturbation. We masturbate as much as men, but many women are ashamed to admit it because of society. We even start earlier than guys. I was 5 yrs. old much younger than my brothers when I started. I think you should get rid of your sexist views. Many women are upset with your sexist views. We are visual, we masturbate as much as men and our sex drives are as strong as a mens. We get multiple orgasms, men can’t and we can go all night, men can’t.

I was talking to a nice, attractive, single, elderly 70-yr-old lady who is in great shape who I swim laps with. She paid me a compliment telling me I was in great shape and asked me how old I was and my height and weight? I responded that she looked great, too. Then I said I would answer her two questions if she told me the same about her. So I said I am 77 & 5’7″, and weigh 125, the same weight I was in high school. Then she said 67, 5’4″ and 116. Then she asked if I still had a “hard body.”  My response: Are you asking me if I can still get it up? She said yes. My response: Yes, but not like when I was 16. Then she said:  My lady friends and I feel sexually frustrated. Most older men are DEAD IN BED! We still want intercourse, and elderly men with erection are almost impossible to find. Why don’t more men get implants. Many of us woman get breast implants…. Implants sound like a no brainer to us ladies—and Medicare covers the surgery. Is it just men’s vanity & insecurity they are hung up on? I for one still like to rock & roll and under the sheets too at my age & believe in the old saying USE IT OR LOSE IT! What do you think about this?

Supposedly, her first husband forced her to have rough sex and a mutual friend of ours told me to go easy on her before we got married. We were 26 and 33 when we married. As the years went by, she refused sex with me often saying, “You’re always after me for sex.” Your perspective? Our birth years are 1934 and 1941. We are divorced, but always wanted to understand our sexual life together.

I came across an article of yours regarding the erection drug Eroxon and how it doesn’t seem to be that effective. That is unfortunate since so many men are struggling with erections (me included) as they enter their 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s. There is a product that you may be familiar with called Muse. Unlike any other medication, this has worked well, very well. The active ingredient is Alprostadil and Muse is a suppository that delivers a pellet in the opening of the penis. I have used this product for about 10-15 years and while it is expensive, for me, it has been worth the price. The problem is that for the last year, the manufacturer (Viatris) who bought out Myelin has not been making any more Muse. I have spoken to Customer Service at Viatris on a few occasions and they indicate that it is not discontinued, they are having a problem with a third party. A very vague explanation. I assume Muse is not a money maker as most doctors (except urologists) do not even know about it. I have even called and spoken with the FDA to find out why the mystery regarding the disappearance of Muse. They provide no further information. I’m wondering, as a journalist, whether you can uncover the real reason why Muse has been out of circulation for 12 months. There is a gel containing Alprostadil that one can get from a compounding pharmacy, but it does not work nearly as well as Muse. I look forward to hearing from you.

In my community, we do not have sex with a partner until we get married. I’m single and have compulsive masturbating challenges, and I want to know if it is safe to edge till my bladder is full, and not let it come out, that much liquid. Also, why do I feel the need to orgasm and ejaculate? I do not enjoy the massage part of masturbation- only if I feel intense pressure and orgasmic release. Can you please clarify this for me?

I am a 70-year-old woman married to an 82-year-old man. Because of age and health problems, he cannot have intercourse, and shows no interest in any other forms of intimacy. I frequently have solo sex and he is aware of that. The problem is I feel so guilty and miss intimacy with a partner. Any suggestions? Sex outside of the marriage is not an option for me.

I am 64 and have sex without any help from drugs three times a day. My girl is 37 and says she loves it. So how long do i have ? My father is 87 and still chases my mother around lol.

I’m a 20-year-old woman with ocd. I masturbate compulsively. If I am about to ejaculate and stop stimulation, where does the fluid go? Sometimes I masturbate very intensely, and it feels like a pint comes out. If I stop b4 climax, will it all leak out? Will it cause problems in my body if I stop b4 it comes out? I feel like I need biology facts, not reassurance. (Maybe a bit of reassurance, too.)

I’m diabetic, type 2. I can’t get an erection. Is there any hope for me?

I read your Psychology Today article about the study showing that chamomile gel applied to the vulva and vagina offers benefits very similar to estrogen creams.  I’m very interested in trying it. Would you please suggest a product and where I can purchase it? I’m having no luck finding that specific product online.