I am a 18 year old female who needs lubricant for sex. Are there other lubricants besides oil that I can use for unprotected sex? Could I use a water based lube?

I’ve got Cerebral Palsy, Hydrocephalus, Dyspraxia and Asperger’s. Which basically means I look odd. And it’s also meant a life virtually totally bereft of female companionship in the bedroom (Though I HAVE asked 7 ladies to marry me because I thought they were in love with me like I was with them, Asperger’s alert, they hit the hills the moment I asked!)

So I’m 54 now and just met a woman who’s mentally handicapped like me – doesn’t mean either of us are ‘stoopid’ or ‘cant learn’ like we keep being told. And I can’t get it up. And I’m kinda feeling suicidal over it – would you believe I’ve read up on the Peaceful Pill Handbook before finding your site by chance – because she’s stunning and I don’t want to lose her by telling her.

I thought it was just cos I was 54, but I keep reading I should be able to get it up till I’m 70. If she gets pregnant I’m fine about having a kid, I can handle having one, please believe that. I’d also just love to know what having sex feels like! Why wasn’t I having sex earlier in life? Because all the ladies were telling me how ugly/deformed/even ‘diseased’ I was, the males were beating up on me more than saying anything, and I flat didn’t get the chance. I really tried.

I really, really don’t want to go through the rest of my life as much a failure to Lucinda as I have been in everything else to everyone else. If you think that’s all I can be, tell me and I’ll go away. I’ve tried sex clinics but they’ve been no good. If you’ve got any ideas, tell me and I’ll try them. Even if only for awhile, I just don’t want Lucinda to hit the hills too!

I’m starting to believe that porn caused my ED. I had a medical checkup and I’m healthy. Before I get to the porn part, let me say that I’m an atheist and have nothing to do with religions. Politically, I’m a very liberal person. So here’s my story. I started watching porn at 15. Mainly light BDSM stuff. As I got older, I started watching hardcore BDSM stuff. At 25, when I got into a new relationship I started having ED issues. I just couldn’t get erect. Even after trying BDSM. So I stopped watching porn for 15 days and I become normal. Sex was great. Same thing happened when my then-girlfriend went to a different city for like 4-5 months. I started watching porn during that time again. Took another 20 days for me to be able to have sex. So basically if I watch porn today and masturbate to it, I can’t have normal sex for 15-20 days but with watching porn I can and used to masturbate 2-3 times a day without any erection issues. What advise would you give me, I’m confused between what to believe, is porn causing my problem or something else ? There’re no other issue in our relationship. No extra ordinary fights or cheating or any such things. I’m lucky to have an understanding partner of my age.

Why does my boyfriend sometimes have to stop during sex and go pee?

My wife has expressed interest in being tied up, restrained, and ravished. She says it helps her feel like she can let go. That makes sense.
But when I try to do this for her, it is very very hard for me. I don’t enjoy being dominant at all. I see the pleasure it brings her but it is uncomfortable for me and not enjoyable. She has said this is her favorite type of sex and I just can’t see myself doing this for her often. I’d really rather not. She said now that she’s experienced it she wants more. Is there any way for me to learn to become more dominant for her?

I struggle with ejaculating too quickly. We always spend lots of time on my wife and make sure she has orgasms. When it’s my turn I’m good for about 15 or 20 seconds. Especially in a doggy position. There it’s almost instant. However, If we “simulate” doggy by me not entering her vagina and just thrusting along her vulva, I can last a very long time. Why is that?

After 13 years of marriage, my wife came out to me as bisexual. I always had thoughts she might be as I’ve seen her gaze with desire at women for years. I’m actually happy she shared this with me. It’s who she is. She has suggested a threesome with another woman. We went to a strip club and both had lapdances to check it out. My wife really enjoyed it and is pressing to go further. I honestly didn’t enjoy it. I appreciated that she did though. She says she doesn’t want to be with a girl unless I’m there too. Is it unfair for me to say no to that?

I’m curious about semen retention. It’s been widely promoted by YouTubers recently. Can you please share your thoughts about this? Is it as strongly beneficial as they promote it to be?

Is this natural? I’m a 39-year-old male. Sometimes I have sex with random strangers. I had several partners today, actually 6. We had oral sex. I was yelling and moaning. Is this natural?

Hi, I had twins 8 months ago. I would consider having another child, but my husband has postpartum depression and refuses to even discuss any more kids. He said he’s thinking of getting the snip to make sure there’s no chance of my birth control failing. Before I first got pregnant, I was aware that my husband found pregnant women attractive and was excited that I could provide that fantasy for him… until he wouldn’t touch me. From about 4 months pregnant he thought sex with me was disgusting and didn’t want sexual with me at all. Since our babies arrived, we have had sex one time. Just once. In 8 months. He says he’s too tired.I know he watches porn and he knows I don’t like it (as it definitely impacts our sex life) and he deletes his browser history daily to hide it. One day he didn’t delete it and curiosity got the better of me (I know I shouldn’t be looking but I want to know what he would prefer to me) He was watching porn of pregnant women masturbating. Honestly while I was pregnant I loved my body, I felt great, my tummy was tight and gorgeous and round and I am large breasted.
So my husband never wants me to be pregnant ever again and didn’t want to have sex with me. Now that I’m not pregnant he won’t either and I find out he does in fact find pregnant women attractive?! How can I try and attract my husband again? I’m starting to realise it may be more about me and less about ‘his time.’