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We have been married for 8 years. I have given him oral sex just once in all that time. I loved doing this for him but he told me he didn’t like it. He said he was not clean. He has never given me oral, not once. Two weeks ago, I found out he has been sleeping with someone else. This woman texted me to say she had been sleeping with him and that their sex was great, so I would think they have been doing oral sex. What do you think I should do?

I am a happily married 65-year-old male. The past couple of years I have been ejaculating uncontrollably in about 2 -3 minutes. I also have ED occasionally. I have a very understanding wife and find her very attractive. I feel very bad when I cannot please her. We had a good sex life until these issues started. I would love any input.

Hi. Whenever my wife starts to make noise during sex, it triggers my ejaculation. Last night, we were having sex and everything was find until she starting making moaning noises—boom, I came. I ejaculate regularly to help my PE. If I don’t have sex for a while, say a week, it’s over very quickly. But if I ejaculate daily on my own for a week, then I can last longer with my wife. But as soon as she makes noises, as soon has she’s enjoying herself, I struggle to compose myself. Even when she orgasms during foreplay, I struggle to control myself—and I’m not even penetrating her. Please help !!!

I know that I am one of many with the same question but I simply cannot find the right solution for it. I am 18 year old and have a pretty good relationship. We are 18 months together and 3 months ago we had our first intercourse. That was the first time for both of us. It wasn’t like I imagined it. I was stressed and ejaculated quickly. But for next few times I was pretty good and could last pretty well—I suprised myself. But then we started to have sex in my car. I am a teen so I don’t haven my own apartment and the car is the best solution right now. I thought everything would go fine because car is big and we have enough space. But immediately after I put my penis in her, I ejaculated. I was never so sensitive. The second time I usually last longer, but the last three times my second ejaculation happened as fast as the first. And now I cannot get an erection anymore. I love my girlfriend and I want her to enjoy sex with her. This is a really big problem for me—probably  psychological because I’ve tried kegels and everything. (I always use condoms and first few times we used lube.)

Dear Sir. My name is Sanaullah. My age is 19 old. But I am sexually so weak. My testis are so small due to excessive masturbation—at least once a day, often more—so I am physically and especially mentally so weak. I have no confidence. Please tell me the solution. I am thankful to you if you help and suggest some medicines.

I’m in my mid 70’s and no longer produce semen at ejaculation. I had radioactive seeds in my 60’s. Is there a supplement to help? Thxs.

My best friend and I became lovers. We are not dating; we are simply having fun with one another. He and I have both slept with a myriad of other people. He’s an incredible partner. He’s in tune with my needs and I orgasm consistently; however, when it comes to intercourse, he cannot last long. He never has sex sober, so we thought that might be the reason why he can’t last. We had a wild weekend (to him, a normal weekend) and tried again to have sex. It didn’t last long. He can get it up quickly. He just cannot last with me. Other girls that he’s slept with say that he’s great in bed, but I haven’t experienced this. I’m thinking it has to do with the fact that we’re so close. I’m just frustrated and I don’t know what to do, because it’s almost insulting to know that he can fuck a complete stranger for hours but he can only last 3 minutes with me. Help needed.

My wife was brought up very conservatively. When we met, we didn’t talk much about sex. She  thought that anything other than vanilla, missionary sex was wrong, and early in our relationship, didn’t even want any foreplay or lube.

However, over the years, as our relationship has grown, we have gradually introduced new things into our sex life and now have a great marriage and good sex. But I have always kind of had to guess what she really wants in bed. When I ask, she just says that what we’re doing now is o.k. We have lots of foreplay, occasionally use sex toys, enjoy intercourse in different positions, and my wife loves it when I give her oral. She prefers sex from behind so that I can reach around and stimulate her clitoris.

Last night I was stimulating her clit and she put my penis between her butt cheeks, I was thrusting gently and she was enjoying it and obviously getting very moist inside. Then she said , “Oh I’m very nervous. Shall we use some lube.” So I applied some lube to her and to myself. At this point I assumed she wanted to try anal sex. So we continued as before and gradually I worked my penis towards her anus. She liked it and was getting excited, but then when I entered her she said, “I’m not interested in anything like that.” So I pulled out and we stopped.

I had a completely sleepless night last night. I really don’t know what to do. I can’t work out if I merely misread the situation, which is what I told my wife last night, or if she wanted anal but then didn’t like it, or if she is playing some kind of game with me. I take no as no but I am kind of lost as to how to progress. Help please.

My boyfriend has been put on Effexor. It has affected his sex life, as he has
a hard time keeping an erection and can’t have an orgasm! Is there anything
else that would help him that would not mess with our sex life?

How can I get my boyfriend to stop being so self-conscious about not getting a full erection?