Black couple on bed hot and heavy

My best friend and I became lovers. We are not dating; we are simply having fun with one another. He and I have both slept with a myriad of other people. He’s an incredible partner. He’s in tune with my needs and I orgasm consistently; however, when it comes to intercourse, he cannot last long. He never has sex sober, so we thought that might be the reason why he can’t last. We had a wild weekend (to him, a normal weekend) and tried again to have sex. It didn’t last long. He can get it up quickly. He just cannot last with me. Other girls that he’s slept with say that he’s great in bed, but I haven’t experienced this. I’m thinking it has to do with the fact that we’re so close. I’m just frustrated and I don’t know what to do, because it’s almost insulting to know that he can fuck a complete stranger for hours but he can only last 3 minutes with me. Help needed.


  • Michael Castleman says:

    Hmm. Your situation is unusual. Typically, men come quickly when they feel anxious, for example, when having sex with new partners. When men feel relaxed, for example, with someone they know well, they usually last longer. I’m sorry it hasn’t worked out that way for you.

    I have two suggestions. First, you say he never has sex sober. But you don’t mention his intoxicant of choice. If it’s alcohol, that drug often interferes with ejaculatory control. He might try the wild new experience of sober sex and see how that plays out. Or maybe a little weed….

    Beyond that, all I can offer is my e-booklet, The Cure for Premature Ejaculation, which outlines the very effective sex-therapy program that teaches men ejaculatory control. You and he might find some nuggets in there that help. If you work through the program and still have this problem, please get back to me with more details and perhaps I can make additional suggestions.

    Good luck!

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