HELP ME! I can’t hold an erection for longer than three minutes. My wife is at her wits end. My wife is at her wits end. My erection won’t last. How can I go longer?

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  • Michael Castleman says:

    You CAN learn to last longer. Usually, it takes only a couple of months.

    Your problem is officially called premature ejaculation (PE). It’s men’s number one sex problem across the lifespan. From the teen years through men’s fifties, about one-third of men report problems with ejaculatory control at least once a year, and after 60 the problem still affects about 20 percent of men. This is a sad commentary on sex education because, in the vast majority of cases, PE can be easily cured with a simple self-help program.

    The original program was developed by pioneering sex therapists William Masters and Virginia Johnson in the late 1960s. Since then, other sex therapists have refined it, and today, the self-help enables about 90 percent of men to learn to last as long as they’d like fairly quickly either solo or working with a supportive lover. Chances are excellent that the self-help program can cure you. To learn about it, read the article on premature ejaculation.

    In the unlikely event that the self-help program doesn’t work for you, don’t despair. Sex therapists enjoy an excellent track record helping men learn ejaculatory control, even if self-help hasn’t worked for them. If after a few months of working on the self-help program with your wife, you decide that you need more assistance, you can find a sex therapist near you by visiting the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, or the American Board of Sexology.

  • Rob59 says:

    Forgive me sir, but the guy didn’t say he ejaculated and lost his erection after a couple of minutes, he said he lost his erection after a few minutes.
    Don’t mean to be an alarmist but these days being unable to maintain an erection is a possible symptom of a more serious – and treatable – condition. The most common problem associated with loss of erection is artery or vein diseases.
    After all, an erection is dependent on the flow of blood to and from the penis. Obviously this process is carried out through veins.
    But what they’re realizing is that if a guy is having problems as a result of poor circulation in his penis – because of vein problems – there’s a chance (I purposely didn’t use the modifiers “good” or “some”) there are also problems with the veins related to his coronary functions.
    Quick personal testimony – I was having difficult maintaining my erection before I reached age thirty (I learned at an early age a guy doesn’t necessarily have to have an erection to ejaculate).
    At fifty-four I had a life-threatening event directly affecting my Aorta – I had an Aortic Dissection . To make a long story shorter I survived the event – which is not always the case for this particular problem – and it was discovered I had been living with the potential all my life – the condition was genetic in my case.
    I’m not saying this guy has heart disease – there are lots of reasons a guy loses his erection – some are psychological. But if he has any reason to believe there’s something more to his problem physically – I’d insist that my doctor perform some basic tests related to coronary function.

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