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I am an African lady aged 39 turning 40 on 24th Nov, 2011. I have a problem with my vagina. It is very loose such that a man goes direct all the way in. I have tried different herbs that don’t seem to help. How may you help?

How do you get women to stop believing their partner has to have a large penis? I have been told by past girlfriends that I have a small penis and they are breaking up with me to find someone with a large penis. People say size doesn’t matter and yet women seem to go for the guy that has the largest bulge in their pants. Why is that?

My husband does not perform oral sex on me. I love it. I crave it and I miss it. He says he does not like it. He says that if he does it, it will not feel natural, it´s like he will be doing it only because he’s forced to. I have already hinted how much I like it and still he does not do it. What should I do?

I am on my 2nd marriage, 60 yrs old,  and wonder if the size of labial lips enlarges after childbirth? I do not remember if I have ever been different, but my 2nd husband asked about it. I have always had a difficult time coming & wonder if this is the reason why. I recently saw a notice for labial reduction at a spa/cosmetic center I have used for facials. Is this cosmetic or clinical? If it would have helped, I would have done it years ago.

Is there anything that can be done to restore interest in sex in a woman who has apparently lost all desire for sex?

We just discovered my wife’s G-spot. She loves it when I rub and press it with a finger or two. She especially loves it when I lick her clit while doing her G-spot. I have no problem with this. I enjoy it. She has incredible orgasms that way. The problem is she’s so into her G-spot that she no longer likes to have intercourse. I like slipping my cock inside her, and keeping it there a nice long while. Now we’re doing that a lot less. I’ve told her I need more intercourse, but she’s not hearing me. Is she a G-spot addict?

My wife and I are 62. I’m having trouble getting an erection for a couple of reasons, mainly Parkinson’s disease. So I have wondered about using a strap-on dildo. The problem is: My wife is leery of dildos. She thinks they might tear her vagina. I’ve never heard of that. Is it possible? How can I help her overcome her anxiety?

I have premature ejaculation problem… when my sex organ just starts getting fully hard, spontaneously after 30-60 seconds of penetration, ejaculation happens. How can I recover from this problem?

I’m overweight – heavy. Had a prostatectomy a year ago. Some penile length has been lost, and it is now difficult to reach my wife. Any ideas on positions/techniques to try?

Starting just in the last month, I notice that my circumsized penis has shrunk such that the head has retracted into what little residual foreskin remains. My penis has always been short, but this condition is new to me. My observation is that my flaccid penis seems smaller than it used to be. My wife of 30 years and I have intercourse about every 7 days. I always take Cialis about one hour prior. Because it seems to me that having sex too frequently is associated with ejaculation failure, I sometimes wait another day or two. I have not ejaculated in intercourse for about three weeks now. I ask my wife to vibrate me to orgasm. This is getting humiliating. Perhaps there are physical or psychological reasons linking the shrinking penis and failure to ejaculate during intercourse. It is a fact that after giving my wife a massage, I get an erection sufficient to insert it, but lately, it goes limp on me, and I cannot have an orgasm, which is new. I am an otherwise very healthy retired 77-year-old clinical psychologist, who works out vigorously at the gym three days a week.