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I was wondering if there has been any articles or research on oral sex and wearing dentures?

I’m 39 and have been married to my husband, whom I love very much, for 12 years. We’re about the same age. He is a wonderful husband and I know he loves me dearly. The problem is that we have never (!) had a good sex life. My past experiences tell me that when I first have sex with a man, it is never all that good, but the newness counteracts that. After a while, when you have learned each others’ likes and dislikes, you create good sex. So, my husband & I married after just a month and I wasn’t worried, we’d get good at sex together, right? Well, he runs his race no matter what–for 12 years. For example, he is a very sloppy kisser and when he wasn’t responding to my signals to adjust the kissing, after a couple of months I finally said in a playful manner, “This is how I like to kiss” & I showed him. He was so offended & hurt that we haven’t kissed since (open mouth that is). He is angry with me for never wanting to have sex, yet he won’t listen to what I want or need. He gets his education from porn. Foreplay to him means to rub my erogenous zones for 10 minutes before penetrating. He always complains that I’m not passionate, but I turn inwards trying to get excited enough to where it won’t be too uncomfortable or even hurt. I have talked to him about needing foreplay, and that I’m not ready to have my special zones rubbed right away, to touch me everywhere else to build up desire. He tries to accomodate me, but touches me without intent just to get it over with so he can get to the good spots. He just doesn’t know how to do it and I don’t know how to teach him. I have never ever had this issue before. I bought him a book on foreplay once but he never read it. He was again hurt & thinks that sex shouldn’t be that difficult. He’ll buy toys for me and erotic books, etc since he sees me as having a sexual dysfunction problem rather than us having a communication problem. He has had several partners before me by the way. To make matters worse he has a very high sex drive and I feel like I could live the rest of my life without ever having sex again at this point. We have sex about 3 times a week, which he feels is not enough. I’m to the point that I don’t even know what I like because it has been 15 years since I had good sex and I’m angry about it because I feel like I have been robbed of my own sexuality. How do I communicate to him what I need without hurting his feelings? He is American and I’m from a country where sex is not as taboo. We had good sex eduaction in school & we learned the importance of foreplay for women around age 16 I think. Anyway, I just don’t know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

I’ve read about ED etc. I can get aroused, I’m just wondering if there’s a reason for a drastic decrease in semen volume? I’m a 60 year old man with a normal sex life, except for this situation. Am I’m being oversensitive about the norm at this age?

My 87 year old mother has lived with a man for 42 years. He now demands sex or manual stimulation every waking moment. She has told him NO many times but he continues to ask her to undress, perform sex acts, etc.

She does not have enough monthly income to live alone, and has asked me to see if I could find some help in how to handle this situation. Her partner is getting increasingly angry over her rejection. He had a heart bypass about 10 years ago and prostate surgery 5 years ago, and has a tube from his bladder connected to the recepticle bag on the outside.

My husband and I have been married 30 years with a healthy sex life. But 3 months ago he began with the mobile porn sites from his phone, to the house PC and has since joined a lot of dating sites and casual sex sites. He has always been a great lover and we have had what I thought was awesome sex. We experiment, etc…I am no prude. I was blindsided when I saw his email account. His profiles had him SEPARATED LOOKING FOR FWB, NSA, FOR DISCREET RELATIONSHIP. Far worse was the desperation in his communications with the women he admired. Messaging them from work or home when I was not there.

I have read his profiles and conversations and I am lost. I told him I knew. He states he “got caught up” but I believe he would have gone through with the hook ups if he had any takers. Needless to say, I am devastated, my self-esteem shot. I have tried to give him the best sex of his life, started dressing more sexy, even have a brazillian, but I am 48. Can I really compete with the other women out there? Is my marriage over? Does he really want all those things I already give to him from someone else?

I’m a mother of 3. Please, how can I get my loose vagina tight again?

I am really confused. I have been happily married for over 20 yrs and have had a great sex life with my husband. But over the last few months, I have had this desire to sleep with another woman and I cant stop masturbating while watching lesbian porn. My husband is a very unselfish lover and makes me cum most of the time although I can’t seem to stop thinking how it would be to sleep with a female … Is this normal???

My boyfriend has been taking an antidepressant (paroxtine, 20 mg/day) for almost a year. After 2 weeks of the medication, we noticed a reduction in his sexual abilities (reduction in erection but normal ejaculation). He is 25 years old. Is this side effect permanent even after he stops the medication? Will a year of using it destroy his sexual abilities?

I am 40 years of age, a weight lifter, but under a great deal of tension, living in Pakistan, and having no sexual urges. Kindly help me.

I’m wondering if you could provide any suggestions to help a 57-year-old male break his addiction to porn? For the last 10 to 12 years, our sex life has went from 3 to 4 times a year (not by choice) to no sex of any kind (except self) for the last 4 years. This has lead to the heavy use of porn to enhance my self satisfaction. Help please!