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I am a 53-year-old woman and I have much less interest in sex than my husband. This has been going on for quite some time. None of my doctors seem to understand the toll this has taken on my marriage. I need some serious help before my husband ends up divorcing me after a 30-year relationship. He has just one thing on his mind. Is there an answer for me? Please help. I don’t know where else to turn.

I am 52 years old. The man I am dating is 45. I love so many things about him, he’s funny, witty, slow to anger and the list could go on and on. He is a good kisser and I haven’t been this turned on in years, BUT he takes FOREVER (2 to 3 hours) to reach orgasm and what started out as great for the first half hour has now turned into exhausting ordeal. Sex takes hours. I’ve never heard of this before. He says it’s not me, that I turn him on wonderfully. He just says he’s always had a long “hang time”. But, I don’t know if I can stay in this relationship because of it. I don’t want to break up with him, but I just don’t have the energy to keep up with him and I don’t want to dread having sex. Is there anything I can do or a doctor could do??? He does have back trouble and frequent kidney stones, but like I said, he has been like this all his life. He says his ex-wife kicked him to the curb because of it. I don’t want to reject him, but I’m at my wits end. Help me if you can. Thanks so much! MJW

Any oral is too sensitive for my uncut penis. I cum too soon when my partner just places her mouth on my penis head.

I am 24 years and I have been masturbating for 8 years now. I don’t know if masturbation can affect me later, so please I need your help. Is it good to masturbate? I  don’t want to have sex with a girl now, so what should I do?

After several years of being together, you get used to the same routine. I want something exciting to turn my man on. Not sure what. Any suggestions?

I’m a 41-year-old woman who has been married for 21 years to a wonderful man. But sometimes I feel that I want to have sex with a woman. Is that normal? I’m not a lesbian–or am I a lesbian?

I am a male who has been using anal sex toys for forty years. My favorite has been an object of 1.75 inches diameter. Recently, I acquired a similar object of 2.067 inches diameter (I measured the girth and converted.) Is this too large? (I have seen objects of twice that thickness, but don’t want to go there.)

HELP ME! I can’t hold an erection for longer than three minutes. My wife is at her wits end. My wife is at her wits end. My erection won’t last. How can I go longer?

I keep hearing about Tantric sex, how great it’s supposed to be, but what is it? What I read in Wikipedia is nothing like what friends have told me about it.

My husband has no problem coming inside my vagina, but he almost never comes in my mouth. I want him to. I guess I just don’t know how to give a “complete” blow job. Any advice?