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I have a problem in sex. I ejaculate premature. i do not satisfy my sex mate. Help!

At 50 after some 30 years of a disappointing sex life, I’m starting to become VERY COMFORTABLE with the idea of being single, alone, and sexless for the rest of my life.

To the rest of the frustrated mid-age women, I say, “Sorry, ladies, but what comes around goes around.”

I’ll welcome arguments to the contrary, but why should I care if my libido is down after 40, or 50, or 60?

I am a healthy 42-year-old woman free of all STD’s. After I bathe, the little bit of fluid from my vagina is clean-smelling. But when I get highly aroused, my vaginal fluid takes on a rather musky aroma. Is this normal? My doctor says everything checks out fine. Can you elaborate on this topic for me? I truly enjoy oral sex, and when I have tasted my husband’s fluid, his is less pungent. Are there any foods t can eat to make my genitals smell less musky? Thank you for your time and kindness in advance.

I write to you from South Africa. I am the grandmother to a three year old child who started masturbating at two and a half years. I took her to the Specialist who gave her Risperdal to be taken at night. She was given a repeat prescription. In December, she started all over again most probably because she was with her mother who forgot to give her the medication. In January, my daughter read about homeopathic Carsinosin on the Internet. I took the child to a Homeopath who gave her some tablets to chew. The condition has not improved. She masturbates anytime and this embarrasses us. Can you give me any advice?

My wife (42) says she has no sexual desire, but does not entertain the thought of anything to get me off—not anything—so I’m left without also. Is their anything I can do? Besides spending a lot of time in the shower….

I lived in Brazil for a few years. Yes the women are as passionate as their reputations, the whole country is! A favorite move for many of them is to put a finger in a man’s rectum and give a prostate massage while having sex until he comes. I’ve never seen this recommended in any sex articles or books. It’s great and solves a lot of ejaculatory problems. What’s the big hang up?

I’m 42. My husband is 38. We both enjoy sex, well, I used to, but last year I was in a car crash, which left me with back pain that hasn’t gone away. Medication helps, but ever since the accident, I’ve lost my sex drive and have no libido. Because of my pain, I’m rarely in the mood any more. My husband has been very supportive during my recovery, but he’s getting very frustrated with our sex life, which is pretty much non-existent at the moment. Is there anything I can take to heighten my libido? HELP PLEASE.

I have nerve damage from an accident and can only maintain a partial erection during intercourse. I’ve heard of a penis extender called PPAs (prosthetic penis attachment) that are supposed to provide a firm erection. Is this true? Would you have any suggestions and where to purchase?

I am 44 years old. My lover accuses me of having sex with other men because my vagina is sometimes loose. But really I am not sleeping with anyone else. How can I make him believe me? I can not explain why my vagina is loose sometimes. And it’s just sometimes, not all the time, sometimes it’s tight. Maybe you can explain this? Thank you very much.

I am 25 and I feel very sexually attracted to an older married man, and very much older than me (63). I first met him when I began my first semester in college since he was my professor. At that time, I wasn’t doing emotionally well, suffered from depression, and didn’t have anyone else in my life for support. However this person helped me get through my difficulties, and it grew from there. I first looked up to him as a mentor, began seeing him as a father figure… and then I began having very strong sexual desire for him. The love I feel towards him is real, and I think I will always feel love for him since at the same time, I still look up to him greatly and see him as a father figure. But I do not want to deal with these sexual feelings anymore. Would you by any chance know if there’s a way one can decrease their sexual desire towards someone (more than just finding a boyfriend…)?