My husband and I have this fantasy of having a threesome with another lady. But we don’t know how to find a woman who is willing to play with us. How to find a good playmate?
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My husband and I have this fantasy of having a threesome with another lady. But we don’t know how to find a woman who is willing to play with us. How to find a good playmate?
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Beyond approaching a woman you know, you have three options, the Casual Sex listings on Craigslist, a sex club, or a swinger publication or organization.
Criagslist’s Casual Sex listings include what you’re looking for, two women and a man, or FFM. You can either post an ad, or answer an ad from a single woman looking to play with a couple. The more detailed your ad, the more likely you’ll find someone on your wavelength. Photos definitely increase response. However, bear in mind that because it’s so easy to reply to CL ads, you’re likely to attract flakes and lots of single men saying: How about some MMF fun?
Most major metropolitan areas have at least one sex club where exhibitionists can let it all hang out and where voyeurs can watch. You might meet a woman who’s into your fantasy. Google “sex clubs” in your area. Most clubs have a “no pressure” philosophy. You won’t feel pressured to do anything you’d rather not.
All major metropolitan areas have swing groups and most have swing clubs and publications that cater to swingers. Google terms like “swing clubs,” “swinging,” “wife swapping,” etc. Most groups and clubs have a no-pressure philosophy and are happy to welcome new folks. As for swing publications with personal ads, sex shops often stock them.
But before you start reaching out, I urge you and your husband to sit down and discuss your ground rules for any threesome explorations. It’s one thing to fantasize bringing a third person into your bed, quite another to watch her and your husband go at it while you’re off to the side feeling ignored and hurt. How much time do you want to spend with your new friend before you take her home or to a hotel? How do you envision your threesome proceeding? How would you each feel about being the odd person out? Are there any taboos you’d want to observe? What about safe sex? The clearer you and your husband are about your needs and desires, the more likely you can play out your fantasy happily. Good luck.