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I am a 49-year-old man. The past couple of years I’ve experienced a decrease in sensation when I ejaculate during sex or masturbation. Is this normal for my age? Is there anything I can do to change this?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    Have you had a medical check-up lately? If not, that would be prudent.

    But based on your brief description, I doubt that any medical condition is causing your problem. Your experience sounds normal to me. As men age, nerve conductivity in the genitals declines somewhat and many men notice less intense sensation with penis stimulation and orgasm.

    First, try to relax about this normal, age-related change. Getting anxious just makes things worse because anxiety constricts the blood vessels that carry blood into the penis, making erections less likely and less firm.

    Can you do anything about it? Probably. First, try using a lubricant. Lubes increase genital sensitivity and can compensate for some loss of nerve conductivity.

    Second, try extending the time you spend in masturbation and partner lovemaking. As time spent having sex increases, so does genital sensitivity and pleasure with orgasm.

    Third, include more whole-body touching. Many men notice that when they are touched (or touch themselves) all over, whole-body massage makes genital stimulation feel more arousing, and enhances sensation on orgasm.

    Finally, do Kegel exercises. These exercises, named for the doctor who popularized them, strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, the ones that contract during ejaculation/orgasm. As the pelvic floor muscles become stronger, orgasms become more intense. Do Kegels a few times a day for a month or two, and chances are that you’ll feel more intense pleasure on orgasm. For directions on doing these simple exercises, read the article on Kegels.

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