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I have this fantasy of my wife having sex with another man while I watch. Is this a common fantasy for married men and do the majority of married women have the same fantasy?

I’m a 57-year-old man, divorced two years ago. I’m politically conservative and active in the Republican Party. I began dating our local party chair a few months ago. She’s as conservative as I am, but sexually, she’s very different. She’s asked me to spank her, finger her ass, blindfold her, and handcuff her wrists. I went along at first, but as we get more involved, I find all this very disturbing. How can you be politically conservative and be so sexually wild in bed?

I’m a 44-year-old man. I have been married for 20+ years, happily, except that I feel denied a sexual experience I want. Oral sex. My wife won’t “go down” on me although I am always very clean. Sometimes I feel something’s wrong with me. Sometimes I feel something’s wrong with her. I’ve asked and she’s always said no. Now I have dreams of being with other women just because I feel that I am missing something in life and it will all be over before I get a chance to sample it. What do I do? Advice please.

I love my husband and I love sex. But after 17 years of marriage, he does not want to try anything different. I’m frustrated. I would love to have him finger me anally and maybe do more back there, but my husband won’t try anal. Is something wrong with me? With him?

The milky white color of the male’s ejaculation is the sperm, right? After vasectomy is the ejaculation more like pre-cum?

My partner and I have known each other for about half a year and had a very joyful sex life. Unfortunately, he suffers from depression and most likely bipolar disorder. When we first knew each other, he stopped taking his medication, having had a long stable period and his psychiatrist said he could stop. But a couple weeks ago he had a very bad relapse and started taking medication again. He’ll probably stay on it for life – it was his third bad episode. The medication is Cymbalta.

Is there any way of enhancing and improving sex life and especially normal libido (which was never a problem between us) – except for taking Viagra for the ‘act’ which we can hardly afford and always gives him a headache. I don’t want to accept that this is the end of sex for us.

I’ve read about herbal aphrodisiacs, but more powerful ones disclaim the use in combination with antidepressants (never use together with…). And can weaker ones be used together with Viagra?

What is the newest research to help people who suffer from the sexual side effects of antidepressants. What can you recommend?

I am 80 wife is 75. I can’t maintain an erection, but can still ejaculate. I would like to give my wife sexual pleasure. How can I best have sex at 80?

I would like my wife to completely shave her pussy, but she
says she gets razor burn, and is afraid that she will cut herself. Are there other methods besides razors?

My 72-year-young husband is almost completely recovered from nerve-sparing prostate surgery . . .he can get a relatively-firm, penetrating erection with manual &/or oral stimulation; and he can get a firmer erection with cialis. BUT he says that he does not achieve an intense orgasm as he did before surgery. He says it’s pleasant, stimulating; but not the same, not as intense. We are doing every creative, patient thing we can think of . . . but we’d like him to get that intense “reward,” so he will continue to want to engage in lovemaking. Hoping for some insight. . . Brady

When things were still good with my ex-husband, he always complimented my oral skills. I never really gave him deep throat, though, because he never asked and he always liked how I gave head. Now my current boyfriend is really into being deep throated and when I do it, I gag. How can I deep throat him without gagging?