I am a healthy 49-year-old man. The past couple of years I’ve experienced a decrease in sensation and less pleasure when I ejaculate during sex or masturbation. Is this normal for my age? Is there anything I can do to change it?


  • Michael Castleman says:

    Your experience is normal. As men age, nerve conductivity in the genitals declines somewhat and many men notice less intense sensation with penis stimulation and on orgasm.

    First, try to relax about this. There’s nothing wrong with you, not to mention that getting anxious can contribute to erection problems. Anxiety constricts the blood vessels that carry blood into the penis, making erections less likely and less firm.

    Next, try using a lubricant. Lubes increase genital sensitivity and often compensate for loss of nerve conductivity. Also, try extending the duration of your masturbation and lovemaking. Many men notice that extended sex is more sensitive sex. And include more whole-body touching. Many men notice that being touched all over makes genital stimulation feel more arousing.

    Finally, do Kegel exercises. These exercises, named for the doctor who popularized them, tone the pelvic floor muscles, the ones that contract during orgasm. As the pelvic floor muscles become stronger, orgasm becomes more intense. For directions on doing these simple exercises, read the article on Kegels.

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