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Need help with my problem of p.e. Please!

I found your blog post dealing with the study on Sexual Teasing interesting. I would like to know if you know of any research on why Sexual Teasers would go on a date with a suitor or their boyfriend and sexually tease strangers. Thank you.

How can I make my vagina tight again? I’m 54 and my new lover is 46. He says my vagina is too loose. He’s ok with that, but I’m not. Is there anything I can do to make it tighter?

I wonder if you could help me or lead me to someone who can. My husband and I have been married 36 years and have a loving, very good relationship and can talk openly about sex, for the most part.

But when I try and discuss this specific thing, he shuts down. So I don’t bring it up anymore.

I can bring him to an erection by doing fellatio, (which I thoroughly enjoy) but then when he enters me he cannot maintain it. So he then pulls out and reenters me with my legs tight together. Sometimes he can come inside me but most times he comes outside between my legs.

Obviously, the disadvantage is I don’t get the full impact of the previous erection. I say to him, how can you get so hard with my mouth but the moment you enter me you become soft. There must be something wrong with me inside. He says no, it’s his problem, not me. What do you think? Could it be me? Have you heard of this before?

How can I give myself a prostate orgasm?

What is a healthy masturbation routine? I am addicted to excessive masturbation and I’m afraid it will effect my sex life as well as my family life

In my twenties, I had premature ejaculation. I came right away. Very embarrassing. I calmed down in my thrities and lasted longer, not as long as I wanted, no “all night long,” but enough so that my wife and I felt okay about it. So now I’m 44, single again, and dating this great gal, and wham, it’s happening all over again. It doesn’t matter how she does me: handjob, blowjob, or intercourse, I come in a few strokes. HELP!

I can’t get to orgasm during sex. So I researched about it online, and according to the internet, 80% of women can’t achieve orgasm just by penetration. So I started masturbating and focusing on my clit. I couldn’t feel anything for ages. So I made sure I was aroused, and kept trying. I started to feel good, but then the good feeling would only last seconds! The clitoral stimulation only lasts seconds and I don’t know why. Do you know why please?

How can one tell if someone is bisexual? Or gay? I have been with my husband for 5 years, married for 3.5. I am 48 and my husband 46. I am in love with my husband but with Corona, we have had many problems: jobs, money earning, distance from our families, other restriction. And for the last 6 months, our sex life has sucked. It just shut off. He stopped initiating. Two days ago, we went to a birthday party and I met one of my husband’s co-workers. This man seemed gay and made gay jokes. He was with his wife, but as soon as we arrived, he jumped to my husband’s side and made many gay jokes. At one point, I saw my husband caressing his arm briefly but very tenderly. I got suspicious. I remembered that they had met 6 months earlier one Friday evening for drinks. Is my husband bisexual? Gay? I don’t know…I feel really bad and don’t know what to do…

My “beau” has been in a sexless marriage for 12 years and has been used to masturbating daily. Now I have a hard time getting him to have intercourse. If he stops masturbating will this increase his desire for intercourse? With practice at intercourse will it become easier? What is an okay balance between masturbation and intercourse (and me giving him a hand-job). Note: I am 50, recently divorced, he is 52, once divorced and in process of second divorce.