We’re struggling with more than a difference in desire. He doesn’t get an erection and blames me. I am 70 and I just get too tired trying for hours for him to have an orgasm. I get tired of trying. What now? I got a toy to help him so I can keep from being worn out. He says if I were more playful or exciting he could get an erection. But it’s not me. I can have an orgasm just fine when I’m alone. He stopped being affectionate years ago, no hand holding or kiss hello or good bye, just sex or no interest in me. If I try to talk about affection, he accuses me of being sexless. I have tried, but I’m really too old for hours of trying. Seriously 10-20 minutes is all I need to orgasm. I’m hoping sex toys will help, but I think I’d like some affection along with the sex. Like being nice during the day. Is it me? Am I not like other women? The last time it took literally 4 hours. It became a chore. I don’t like feeling that way. I hope the toy I ordered will help.