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With oral sex, my female partner likes my penis enlarging and getting hard in her mouth. What is the equivalent experience for me with her? Can I get the same feeling with her areole and nipples in my mouth? I am new to oral sex.

Would it be normal for a woman’s areolae and nipples to increase in size by 50 per cent when fully aroused?

I am in desperate need of advice to increase sex in my relationship. Me and my girlfriend are both 19. When we first got together, we had a lot of sex, and it was amazing. We are now four months in and the sex has dropped to once every two weeks. Initially when she would deny me I would become visibly upset and she would see that. I then figured out it’s best not to show it. Now I am not sure what to do. I am thinking it’s maybe because she no longer feels attracted to me. She has stated she feels like she wear the pants in the relationship. I have also cried in front of her many times and expressed my emotional side a lot. I have since stopped that. Do you think the sex has stopped due to me not showing enough masculinity and assertiveness? Either way, I would love to here your input and find something I can do.

I am 48 years old and I live in Serbia, a small country in south-eastern Europe.

I would like to ask you a question. I am a bisexual person, never married, I have never had a long-term relationship, rather a lot of short-term relationships with both women and men. I went with the girls in public but I have kept my homosexual relationships secret. The country I live in is very conservative and I had to do that way otherwise I could have been beaten, or left without a job.

The question is: I have always been bisexual and I have always been something like 55 percent gay and 45 percent heterosexual. It has been that way since I lost virginity (to a man, at the age of 19, if that is important). But in the last few years I have become more gay than before. I think that now I am something like 65 gay and only 35 heterosexual. As a kid I wanted to be 100 percent straight but after realizing that I am bisexual (and a little bit more gay than heterosexual) I accepted that and I was perfectly fine with my sexuality. Now I am afraid that I will soon become only gay and it would be difficult for me to accept it. Could I do something about that?

I have noticed that in the last two years I fantasize more about men and I enjoy sex with men more than ever before and I don`t enjoy sex with women so much as before. In fact, my desire to sleep with women is decreasing and when I do that I am not that aroused. I have a very strong libido and I have sex almost every day.

My relationships with women haven`t always been perfect, they have often offended me with their comments about the size of my penis (it is something like 10 centimetres hard) but my male partners have always encouraged me in that way. Maybe that is the reason?

Also, I have had only ten experiences with vaginal intercourses in my life (for the first time at the age of 37). I don`t know why but I don`t like vaginal sex at all and I avoid it as much as possible.

So both my girlfriend and I are in University. I’m working on my law degree and she is in her 3rd year of her bachelor’s degree. She claims birth control makes her nauseated so we use condoms and the pullout method. On more than one occasion when we weren’t using condoms, I’ll tell her I’m about to cum and she will wrap her legs around me tight so I literally can’t pull out. This has happened like 5 times. I love her and she comes from a good family and we are compatible. But why would she do that? Both of us aren’t ready to have kids.

I’ve never had any bad smell or taste before my total hysterectomy. I only have ovaries left. I was told I taste sweet. Now I smell like fish and sour taste at times. I’ve tried so many different probiotics and chlorophyl liquid to improve the smell and taste. Oral sex is extremely important to my husband and myself. I’ve been checked and have zero infections to cause these issues. What do you recommend I take? I’m desperate to be back to how I was before my hysterectomy. I appreciate your answer 🙏

I read your blog from 2019 on porn induced ED and I completely disagree given
my own experience.

First I will tell you that I am 58. I suffer from hypertension and depression
and have been taking meds to treat both.

But here is why I disagree with your article and perhaps might get further
insight from you regarding this condition.

Every article I have read that says there is a connection between porn use
and ED refers to crazy studies done by religious knuckleheads with an anti-
porn agenda.

I don’t fit into this category as I am an atheist and have no moral qualms
about porn use. To each his own.

However, even on the meds I just described I only seem to be able to become
sufficiently aroused when viewing porn.

I even went to a call girl and couldn’t get it up for her, but went home
turned on the computer and successfully got an erection and climaxed.
So how do you explain that?

1. Even on meds that supposedly contribute to ED, I can get off on porn
2. With a live female I cannot get sufficiently aroused to perform.
3. I have no moral bias against porn

And do not view it as immoral. Most of the articles I have read that support
the idea of Porn Induced ED usually point to this as a major contributing
factor. I don’t seem to fit the description of anyone that they point to.

4. I understand that the images one views online are not normal sexual acts
by most people’s standards and would have no expectation that a real partner
would be able or willing to engage in them.

Porn actors are like athletes they train their bodies to do the things they
do like any athlete. How many average folks would be able to do a pole vault
like an Olympic athlete. Very few if any.

So given all this, if Porn Induced ED does not exist as you maintain, how do
you explain my situation?

I therefore submit that porn is related to ED because I have contributing
factors to the typical causes: hypertension, depression and meds that can be
blamed for ED But I can get a normal arousal ONLY when viewing porn.
Your thoughts?

I’m 18 and my boyfriend is 20. We see each other whenever we can and get on really well. For five months now my boyfriend has been coming over to my house when my parents are out so we can have sex. I don’t like to sneak around but it is something normal in these strange times where we have to stay apart.

About two months ago a couple of hours after my boyfriend had left I was curious and decided to try tasting his cum from the condom we had used. I didn’t see any harm in it as I’m sure he doesn’t have any STD’s but I just at that moment wanted to feel close to him. It was okay though seemed to taste slightly different as it was cold to what I remember through oral sex. Since then I’ve been doing it whenever we have sex and wait for him to leave before I swallow it. I’m a bit embarrassed to let him know what I’ve been doing at the moment but quite like it being my dirty little secret.

My question is how much time can I leave it before doing this? I have done it a few minutes after he’s gone in some instances and I have left it up to four hours before trying it a couple of times. Will semen go bad after a while and possibly make me ill? I know it may seem a strange thing to do but I just love being able to be alone and still be able to taste him and feel close.

I am a straight male but find myself watching a lot of gay porn and having fantasies about it. I really want to experience preforming oral sex on another male until he cums in my mouth. Should I act on this or continue fantasizing?

My wife is asking for more anal? Why?